WHATS WRONG with HIM?
MY FRIEND IS 16 YEARS OLD AND HE WANTS A BABY. I THINK HE SHOULD GO TO COLLEGE FIRST.. DO YOU THINK HE COULD MAKE A GOOD FATHER AT 16? WHATS WRONG WITH HIM? AND HOW DO I CONVINCE HIM THAT WOULD BE A HORRIBLE MISTAKE? { BECAUSE HE WOULDNT BE ABLE TO LIVE HIS LIFE TO THE FULLEST} sorry for the all caps im just worried
2006-11-21 16:04:49 · 25 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Contact your local health department and see if they have a parenting program...some schools also have them...the participants are given a baby doll that cry's if it's hungry, wet, wants to be held etc...some high schools also offer such courses after a week or so of sleepless nights and no fun time with friends he may change his mind. Also talk to him about seeing a counselor, being a parent is a full time responsibility offer encouragement to him by being there and listening to his reasons for wanting a child so young and gently but firmly remind him of all he will be giving up. He needs to finish school and go on to college so he can offer a better life for the children he will have in the future. Remind him he is still young and will have plenty of time for a family of his own after school. Talk to him not only about all that he will be giving up but also all the added expenses a child will bring, diapers, formula, bottles, clothes, furniture, daycare etc...
Wanting a child is great but taking care of that child is hard work, what kind of life can he give a child if he has no education and has to work in a low paying job due to lack of education.
What does his girlfriend think of this??? He can't have a baby on his own...speak with her maybe she can talk him into waiting.
Take him to the store and show him all the baby items and the price tags attached. Diapers and formula alone will cost anywhere from $50 - $100 a week, can he really afford it?? Is he really willing to give up all his free time to take care of a child??? or will he get irritated after a short time and pawn that child off on his parents, girlfriend, girlfriends parents etc...??? Ask him to think about all these things and to reconsider.
If you can find a program like I talked about in the first paragraph it may open his eyes. The first time he really wants to go somewhere or do something and he can't go or has to take the baby with him it may help him realize just how time consuming a child is. Good Luck!
I hope this helps you.
2006-11-21 16:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by ginwill1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW he needs to hold his horses!
Being a father is a very hard task that a mature well-off working man will make. He is only 16, he is not even out of high school yet. HIGH SCHOOL. Its a classic case of babies having babies. If he doesnt have a job and doesnt know how to take care of his OWN self, then he has no place to be thinking about babies. Being a father is a responsible choice that you have to make one youre an Adult, with a job, and in a committed relationship. Not to mention the emotional capability of being a father. Being a parent is hard, especially in your teens. So tell him to live his life NOW and worry about having kids later.
Peace
2006-11-21 16:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people need to be loved so badly that they grasp at straws to find something that will fill the emotional ditch in their life. I knew a lot of girls in high school who felt this way.. they think the baby will fix all of their problems.
A baby is a true miracle and a joy, and unless he has the means to take care of a child to the fullest... he has no business being a father. It doesn't mean that he can't be a good father and love his kid unconditionally. It just means that he might be a little selfish in his motives.
Hopefully this is just a phase, and he will realize that he's not quite ready yet.
Best of luck to you and your friend.
2006-11-21 16:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by starryeyedhaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hes obviously not thinking because its not healthy or good for a young man to have a baby beucae it will limit his opportunity in collgege and life. this shouldnt be a irrational decision but instead should be a privelage to have a child. A baby shouldnt limit someone's life it should make it special. And he although may be the most responsible person in the world wouldnt make a good father for 1 reason. If you yourself arent ready then you cant be a good father. dedication to something bigger than you is hwat having a child means. His life would be completely dependent on making his child have a good life.
2006-11-21 16:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by Garrett L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have him baby sit for a new baby for one week 24 hours a day and he will change his mind. 16 no job no money, no education no good job in the future, a male most likely will leave the mother and child behind when he changes his mind about being a father. If I were you I would run because I have a feeling he is trying to have you have his baby
2006-11-21 16:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to think of the baby. Can he provide everything a baby needs and deserves? A child is something so beautiful and deserves nothing less than parents that can provide for it in everyway needed. Emotionally physically, maybe he should think of the life he wants to bring into this world and stop being selfish. Because that is exactly what he is doing. He wants this for himself and he's not thinking of the child that would depend on him for everything.
2006-11-21 16:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it is not the right decision because he must go to college to have an education to get a job to be able to raise the baby. The sky doesn't rain money. And he must be physically and mentally grown up to be able to raise a child well. Rarely who get children that early and succeed in raising them.
2006-11-21 16:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is way to young to have kids! Sometime people feel un loved and think that a babies unconditional love will make them feel fulfilled. It will help for a time but then the burden of raising a child will set in, they'll feel trapped and that sometime leads to abuse of the child.
2006-11-21 16:11:18 · answer #8 · answered by RUDOLPH M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 16 my girlfriend wanted to have a baby so I arranged for her to watch my 2 year old baby sister for a weekend. Instant cure!
2006-11-21 16:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by DarkWolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest wit him but remember that you can not make his choices but everyone sayin that he needs to babysit or somethings is right for the weekend!! if you are still in school or he is get him one of them parentin dolls!
Tell his girl to get on birth control try to talk to her. And if it is you well then you get on b/c and tell him you still have a life ahead of you!
good luck wit the whole thing
2006-11-21 17:03:08 · answer #10 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋