I am a very hard working single mother. I was married about 2 years ago now I'm devoriced. He cheated on me and was on the verge of physical abuse. I won full custidy of my now 2 year old boy, but my ex-husband is a horriable father. He is a dead beat. His gradmother is great with michael. The father just drops michael off at his gradmothers and does whatever it is he does. He can not keep a job. I want to be able to move so that I can go to an RN course
and then go to a med school. I would love for him just to sign his rights over, the only way that will happen is if he (well you know where I'm getting with this.) I have talked to a lawyer, but with him having some rights nothing will ever happen for my benefit. So here I am stuck and I don't know what to do? When I think I'm ready to move on and find another man for the furture he will stop at nothing to make me unhappy once again. How do I get around him to make my life better?
2006-11-21 15:47:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Slow down honey, you got the divorce from the man, not your son. You are the typical female that mates with a man, has a child, finds every fault in the man, wants to take the kid and dump the man.
You ex husband is not making you unhappy you are by being the typical self centered, I can do it by myself woman.
First thing is stop calling your self a "single" mom.. you are a divorcee. You didn't have this child by yourself.
Second of all admit you failed at being married.
Third start living for your child not for your own "I want to go to med school" "I am better than my son's father"
Your son's father does not have to sign over his son to you like some kind of used car.
Shame on all exes that treat the children as property. All children deserve to know both parents.
2006-11-21 15:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I went through a very similar divorce, it was painful and uncomfortable at best. I played his game for a while, all the while documenting everything, when he was late to pick up the boys, when he didn't show, when he didn't pay support, and eventually, I was able to get full custody, move to CA and start a new life, and as luck would have it, out of sight out of mind, he hasn't had contact with us in over 7 years. (by the way, it took less than a year to get it all taken care of)
2006-11-22 00:40:32 · answer #2 · answered by shannonscreativechaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son comes first if his dad dosnt care court is the best answer because if he acts the same when your son grows up its going to hurt him badly fullfill you dream and get a good new man if you think its going to hrt your son having a stepdad one day it will for a little then hell love the man you love make sure your new man loves kids because i know you love your son everthing you do now hes has to be involved best of luck -bree
2006-11-21 23:55:45 · answer #3 · answered by bree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
depending on the state u live in fill for child support if he dont show up to court he loses most of his rights...try to do it with out the father knowing
2006-11-21 23:51:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kim Wise 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
seriously, seek professional advice. Your son is too important
2006-11-21 23:51:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take him to court .
2006-11-22 00:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋