Is there a way to get a guy back for making stupid comments when his friends around?

Question

My husband is always showing off when his guy friends come around and I never know how to defend myself or what to say in return without looking stupid! HELP!

Can I add I never say anything, he's always the one making the stupid comments to ME...and trying to act Macho! He's 22!

Answer 1

Well i could think of several things to get revenge, but I don't think that is healthiest for your marriage.

The short of it - you need to both love & respect each other.

Sometime when you are getting along, go out for coffee (I have read that coffee helps people to understand your side when in a discussion.... they are more open to your side or someething)...
And just say "Hey, so sometimes when your guy friends are over... I notice that you make a lot more jokes at me. What do you mean by that?" or some other question - JUST A QUESTION - that he would respond well to.

Let him talk. Don't say anything. Just let him talk. and pause. and talk. he may end up talking himself around and when you don't respond at first just say "Ya I know that probably is pretty rude, huh?" and if he says he is just kidding around just suggest that you love him but that some things step over the line and determine boundaries of what's ok to joke about and what's not.

You can even say "I totally love you and I love joking with you and your sense of humor. But it just seems so degrading when it's around your buddies and some of the jokes seem to really cut me down."

or "I'm a funny person - I love humor! Don't get me wrong! But it's just a different thing when it's AT ME!"

I think around his buddies you shouldn't snap back because then they will see that and could call you a Btch. Not fair, I know. But you do want to respect your husband. Otherwise your attacks could get really bitter.

Overall, support him when he cuts back on it - like making them a cool snack or ordering them pizza and leaving for a bit for male bonding time... And DON"T support him when he keeps up on it. Sounds like parenting a bit but it helps motivate people when they see a clear relationship between being "bad" and being "good". Finally, after his friends leave definitely say "That was such a good time! I really enjoyed having your friends over!" and be positive.

Don't whine to him. Speak matter of factly when you confront him.

Lastly, pay attention to if there is any rhyme or reason to when he is making comments. Does he want you to go away so the boys can be alone? Are you over them like a mother hen?

Just asking! I really hope this helps!

Otherwise he could be immature and he needs to really work on that. :(

Answer 2

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Answer 3

With him being your husband, you have a lot of ways to get back at him. Cut him off, thats one thing. He'll get the message. You need to take control of this in your own "womanly" way, if you get my point. Let him act a fool, but you can control this, if you want to. No one has to stand there and take verbal abuse from anyone, even if that one is your wife/husband. Dont stand there and argue with him in front of anyone, i mean, dont get "down" to his level, may him pay for that in other ways.Not trying to tell you how to keep it stirred up by the way, but dont take that crap from anyone, especially your husband. Let him know who has the short reins here, and show him you will take control of his "stupid" actions. There are ways to do this, just put your mind to it and you'll come up with the solution. Good luck.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

first of all he's a married man he should act that way. if he's getting out of place then you let him know because he is your husband not your boy Friend that you can tell see u tomorrow. tell him to grow the hell up and that you don't like the stuff he say or does respect , you like you respect him.men always want to act that way around the boys don't let him do that you are grown too. speak you're mind and mean what you say! TELL HIS *** WHAT'S ON YOU MIND NO HOLDS BARRED!

Answer 6

wow... poor you.... what are you doing with a jerk that treats you like that? Hasn't anyone ever told you about the steps to violence: 1. verbal abuse 2. physical abuse.

Why would you want to sink to his level and be like him by getting back at him???? I don't get it. Just walk away. Every single time. Or get the heck out of the relationship. Or try simply telling him how you feel... and remember:

LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO STAY WITH AN UGLY MAN!

Answer 7

Yeah stop doing it for a start, then next time his friends are around make nice comments.

Answer 8

My dad is dead and still mom talks about an incident that occurred over 57 years ago. She was in a room waiting for him, as the story goes, and his mother walked in. He got up to open the door for his mother, but hadnt for his wife, my mom. She was so angry and said nothing. Then her sister in law came in and he opened the door for her. Even know he knew that his wife, my mom, and his sister didnt get along. Finally, my father's brother in law stuck up for mom and we have been hearing about it for 57 years (before I was born).

Mom refused to go see her in laws as a way of getting back at dad for what he did 57 years ago.

Answer 9

With all of his friends there, tell him he needs to quit wearing your pink lace panties because he stretched them out last time.

That night, tell him that every time he picks on you, you'll add another girly item to the story until his friends really think he wears women's clothes.

Answer 10

Yeah...the next time he does it with his friends present, just look at him and say at least you don't suffer from "dicky-do" disease.

If someone asks, let em know that his stomach sticks out further than his "dicky-do"