how after four years he just one day say it is over to be with someone else.?

Question

he tells me to move on. he cheated if feel so terrible. He wont talk to me, it upsets her, then when he does i feel horriable. I am so in love with him....four months now and i still cry what can i do to get over this

Answer 1

When someone up and tells you it's over, here's the thing. It was over a long time before that. He just happened to take that moment to announce it. If he cheated on you and he has another girl, the best thing to do is the most painful thing...move on..don't see him and don't talk to him. He's not worth your time.

I know it's so painful..I don't think there is any worse pain than a broken heart. Here's the best remedy I ever heard of for that kind of pain. The thing that can help is to "give it away." You can replace it by helping someone, helping children, or volunteering for anything. Turn your pain into something positive like this and you'll see how quickly it goes away.

No kidding!

Best Wishes!

Answer 2

I hate to say this but; I wasn't just one day he says it's over. As long as he was seeing this other woman, you must have known. He probably tried to say that a million times and it just so happend that was the day the straw broke the horses back.

I wish I could be there to give you a hug. Other than giving birth, I've never felt a pain so horrible as catching the one you love with another person, even though I can't remember the pain of giving birth (blessing), I'll never forget what I felt like that day.

The only thing you can really do, is get up, get out of bed, go to work, make it through the day, come home, cry if you have to, go to sleep, get up... There are no magic words that will take away the pain, revenge or just going out and finding someone new won't take it away either. It will only make it worse or cover it up and you will never fully heal.

So, if you need to cry yourself to sleep everynight, do it. The day will come when you don't. Don't dwell on it. The important thing is to keep on living your life! What's done is done, he has moved on, and you should do the same. Four years is a very long time to spend with someone, four months is nothing in comparison.

Again, keep your head up! It will get easier, it will get better. Spend time with the people who do love you.

Answer 3

u were betrayed, it is normal to feel hurt, and cry your eyes out. u feel bad because u have no control over him anymore, and someone else has taken your place in his heart. sometimes it's best not to talk to someone who has hurt us, as it's never going to be the words we want to hear from them, and we know theres another woman listening to his every word. yes she has alot to do with it,she is pulling him in one direction, and u want him to love u again. sometimes we just have to distance ourselves from the hurt, and the man who is hurting us, meaning don't even talk to him, it won't be what u want to hear anyway. takes time to get over a shock like this, we need help, like a trusted friend, a minister, even therapy. has to do with your self worth, u wonder why he chose her and not u, u blame yourself for the breakup, but in reality it is because he made this choice, along with the other woman, and they hold the cards, and no matter how much u try he can't see what's in your heart. we can still love a person, that love don't go away, but we have no control over him, as he don't love or value us anymore. we have to allow him his choice, if we try and stop it, it will only bring resentment for us. they can't see us or the years we spent together, as the other woman has what they call bewitched him. if he could be gotten so easily than he would not be there for u in the long run, and maybe it is good it happened now, instead of years from now. your hurt is caused by what your inner voice is telling u about yourself, that it is your falt, that your no good, really it has all to do with him and this other woman who will do anything she can to keep him, until your out of the picture. no one ever said life was fair, or that we would never suffer any hurts. it is how u deal with your hurt that matters, not the hurt. stop telling yourself it's your falt it happened.

Answer 4

First of all you have to realize he did not decide it was over in one day. He had been making this decision over a long time. You are the one that was left to adjust to the change in one day.... and that is not possible. Four years is nothing. Be happy he didn't waste any more of your time. Pamper yourself and get your body, mind and soul together. You have a chance now to find true happiness instead of living with that two faced liar.

Answer 5

The SAME THING happened to me, Kellie. Dated a man for four years, all of a sudden, left me for a teenager. I was heartbroken, he wouldn't speak to me. It's been about four months for me, too. Listen. . .all I can tell you is to keep yourself busy with other things, and try to remember that you can do SO MUCH BETTER than him, if he's weak and cowardly enough to just up and move on like that. You deserve someone who really loves you with your whole heart, and you'll find it some day.

Answer 6

He cheated on you, he won't talk to you because of her. It looks like the problem is that you love him, but he doesn't love you. Anyone who loved you wouldn't put you through this.

Put him out of your life completely. Don't call him, don't accept calls from him. If he comes to see you, tell him to leave you alone. It is going to take time to get over a 4 year relationship... and to do that you need your space.

Best of luck!

Answer 7

Time can only heal your broken heart but you can do some patch work. What that means is talk with other people, meet new friends (guys). They can take your mind off of some of the pain and make your healing process go a little faster.

Answer 8

Honee,........ You are sooooooooo free now!

Think of it as a blessing,........look toward the positive side of it........and put the energy toward that.
1. Think of your freedom-not having to answer to him.
2. Think about all the men have said 'No' to because you was seeing him.
3. Go out and buy you some exercise video tapes & workout, go and do something different with your hair..........and work toward a goal about feeling good about yourself.

Nothing can take away the pain from being with someone so long,.....but you have to gear yourself to the positivity of everything.
Good friends..........and also some good music.

Don't dwell in your grief................. Get with some friends and share some laughter........

Answer 9

The great healer is time, it won't be fast, it won't be painless, but it will happen. Don't be surprised (if you haven't already experienced it) to go through stages of anger, grief, depression, and withdrawal from those you love.

Make time every other day to get a half hour of exercise, get plenty of rest, stay away from alcohol, and eat a balanced diet.

Answer 10

This man mistreated you and disrespected you. Why do you want a man like that? I went through what you are going through and I know it hurts. I woke up one day and realized that I deserved better than to be hurting over a loser who couldn't see my value. Realize your own self worth, and then realize that he's not worthy.