Is this normal? My husband now just informed me that when we used to argue about marriage...He'd go to his ex-wife of 10 years...Is this ok? I mean they have child together and I'm ok they talk about that...But after awhile the Ex got over jealouse...She even went nuts when she found out we got married...Said all these things on an email to my husband which he showed to me...But now I'm realizing that he must've led her on...They've only been divorced for 2 years then we met...We've been together almost 4 yrs married 3 months...I already married him and now he told me this I'm trusting him...I guess I just wonder how other's think about this? Would you share your relationship with your Ex?
2006-11-21 15:28:29 · 11 answers · asked by $&$& 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No way this is normal. You need to put a stop to this-pronto! There is a reason she is the "ex" so you have every right to remind him of this. He should be over her by now and have made the commitment of being with you. He's married to you now so he hasn't any reason discussing anything with her or being under her control. With exception of talking about the kid anything else concerning the two of you is is none of her business. He's out of whack for communicating with her like this. Time for a reality adjustment. So get up close in his face and tell him in no uncertain terms to shut that big mouth of his. What a lot of nerve. If you're wondering about what I think I think it sucks big time and is callous and disrespectful toward you. That shrew of an ex needs to be put in her place also. Who cares if she went "nuts". She's nuts if she thinks she had any say about the two of you being married! Who the hell is she anyway? Tell her to butt out of your lives. Share a relationship with the ex? God no!! So put your foot down unless you're considering becoming another ex.
2006-11-21 19:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you drive him crazy sometimes, and he feels like share this with the person he still feels somewhat close. So watch it out, and think about yourself, the way you behave ...
Remember, you and your home, your marriage ... must be the peaceful, relaxing place for him to come back after each hard working day to suport you and your union. You must be the one he who can share everything, find everything he needs, then he won't need anyone else ...
Of course, there's sometimes weird people, too, but if he did not seem that way along the 4 yrs you were together, there must be a reason if he is now ... So look over both of you, and also the other woman
2006-11-21 15:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to explain to your husband that he has violated the sacred entity of your marriage. He should NEVER talk to his ex wife about you and the privacy of your marriage. He has lost his mind and is some kind of a wierdo. You better stand your ground on this one or he will be blabbing everything to his ex. He has a problem and I would tell him so. Give him an ultimatem and tell him if he ever discusses your marriage with his ex, your going to leave. I hope you can tell me you and he do not have children together, and dont ever have any because he is not a man. Make it clear now that you do not expect him to discuss your marriage to anyone. He must be some kind of idiot freak.
or maybe he still has a hard one for his ex wife. Open your eyes kiddo. I cannot believe you are putting up with this.
2006-11-21 16:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably felt comfortable talking with her, not realizing that in the end he would have a real nightmare on his hands. She had motives of the two of them getting back together it sounds like, this is why she got so angry. However, he has been honest with you and probably realizes now, that it was a bad choice. I would let it go, it happened so long ago and it is not happening anymore So, just let it go, he came clean. I would not allow her to have any more time in your relationship she is the x. Leave her in the past and go on with your lives. We all do something in life we wish we would not have done. And from her reaction I think he has learned his lesson. Just talk it out and let him know you would really prefer if he did not have conversations with her regarding your lives together. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-21 15:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He fouled by sharing your personal relationship with his ex. He sort of fixed the foul by sharing the information with you. He might have been keeping the ex in the wing as a "just in case", but the fact is that he married you.
I would forgive him, but I'd make it very clear that I wouldn't be as forgiving if it ever happened again.
2006-11-21 15:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married men always ***** about their wife to women they want to cheat with. It's a way of getting sympathy from the other woman and inviting her to treat them better than their wives. It sounds stupid but it works all the time.
2006-11-21 17:10:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your married any conversation like that is over the line. I guess up to the point of marriage it would be your call on whether its inappropriate.
2006-11-21 15:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a NO-NO!! Your relationship with your husband should NOT be discussed with her under ANY circumstances!! And NO I would not share my relationship with an Ex...and if he does....watch out!!
2006-11-21 15:32:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wtf is wrong with your husband, i thought the ex was just that--EX. tell him that you are his woman now and the ex dont need to know jack about what you two are doing. he might just be a loser.
2006-11-21 15:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you got to be sick to chat with ex-wife,i know i like to shoot my ex
2006-11-21 15:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋