He is excited but I dont think he realizes what dealing with a prenant woman is all about. He thinks that I am going get bigger for 9 months and one day there is a baby and thats it. I know that this will be hard on him to deal with my mood swings, cravings, aches and pains, and all of the rest that goes along with having a pregnant wife. Do you have any advice for him?
2006-11-21 15:04:10 · 7 answers · asked by angel l 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Congratulations! I'm really excited for you! The way I look at a couple being pregnant is that it's not all that different from being a couple and loving each other through the ups and downs. Non-pregnant woman (and men!) sometimes have mood swings, like/dislike certain foods, get tired, grumpy, have aches and pains, etc. In some ways, those things are easier when you're pregnant because you know that at the end, there's going to be this beautiful baby! But as a couple, I'm sure you already know how to love and communicate with each other-even when the other one is not in the best place!
Try focussing on the excitement and wonder of your changing body. If you're tired or achy, tell him and explain that you don't need him to solve the problem, just to listen and support you. Try to make it clear that you're not really complaining about being pregnant-you're just in a bad mood or whatever because of being uncomfortable. Communication is the key.
Dad's know that they aren't experiencing the baby the way you are-so keep communication lines open (and maybe don't ask him to get up in the middle of the night if you're craving something unless you can't do it yourself-taking care of you and the baby is both of your responsibilities!)
Hope this helps. Wishing you all the best! God bless you!
2006-11-21 15:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by Shoshanna 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, don't buy him a book, he won't read it. No man is going to be ready for a child, My husband was excitied, but no one could prepare him for a child. He is the best father my children could ask for. It all depends on the person. I saw the way my husband was with my niece and I knew he was going to be supportive and caring. If your husband isn't interested than he won't care about the baby until the baby can walk and play. Men like to have children that can play and catch and have fun, nobody likes a baby, or no man. There is no point of telling him anything, if he doesn't know or can't figure it out, then let him have the wrath of a pregnant woman.
2006-11-21 15:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations firstly, i am so happy for you,
honestly, let him live thru it, it willnot be possible for hubby to feel the way you do, but always know he's looking forward to it as much as you are, you'llprobably see him understand and get more expressive after he sees the baby in the u/sound and can hear and see the baby move, its always such a priceless moment, maybe youshould look fwd to that, and no saying how it'll be oncethe baby arrives and is in his arms, so just let it be, and enjoy your joys together naturally, all the baet
2006-11-21 15:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by aditigsamai 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Congratulations. My advice is for you. A pregnancy is a pregnancy--it is not a license to whine. Focus on the positive and don't borrow trouble. You could have an easy pregnancy. And even if you don't, as with any pain--your husband won't be able to feel or fix it. The truth is that "we" are not pregnant, you are. You need to be able to tell your husband if there is anything he can do in your difficult times. He is not going to be able to read your mind. Repeat after me: "My nerves are shot; I need a hug and a backrub."
2006-11-21 15:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Millie M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let him know it will be hard with the mood swings and the food cravings but he should be able to handle it if he loves . Also let him know that you will need alot of TLC too.
2006-11-21 15:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations. There are books for men to prepare them for their new role such as giving you foot massage. I skipped that chapter by the way.
2006-11-21 15:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
"A pregnancy is a pregnancy--it is not a license to whine."
As the person who said this above, good advice. It's not a right to whine. Try to be as pleasant towards him as possible.
2006-11-22 01:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋