I'm what you'd call a "f*g hag". My best friend (for 8 years now - we're both 24) is a closet gay guy. His parents and co-workers think I'm his live-in girlfriend. Things are great between us - we are both single and sharing an apartment (yea I know, just like Will & Grace). But lately he's been hinting that he would like to experiment pseudo-sexually with me. Like when we've looked at some gay porn pictures together he has "jokingly" suggested we masturbate together. And many other such things.
I actually don't hate the idea. I'm not phsyically attracted to him, but it seems like it would be kinda "kinky" to do some foreplay-level sex stuff with him. On the otherhand, it seems like this could possibly open god-knows what can of worms (embarassment, jealousy, etc?). I don't want things to be uncomfortable between us.
So what do you think? Is it okay? I don't want to make a big fuss about it with him either way, because that would look like I thought it thru way too much lol.
2006-11-21 14:59:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anna 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
go 4 it, sounds fun
2006-11-21 15:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" . . . it seems like this could possibly open god-knows what can of worms (embarassment, jealousy, etc?). I don't want things to be uncomfortable between us."
I think you just answered your own question.
Opening cans of worms can be good, and lead to great things. But if you aren't willing to take the chance that something bad/unwanted might crawl out of the can (am I using that metaphor right? lol), then don't do it.
If you do, make it clear to him that you aren't physically attracted to him, but doing it for the kink factor- which can still be fun for both of you.
2006-11-21 15:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice: pass. This will really complicate your relationship. If you are both a little horny then just go and masturbate privately. This could open a can of worms you don't need and ruin a good thing.
2006-11-21 15:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your interested talk seriously with him about your current relationship and explain how you feel. If he's your friend he'll listen. Lay out ground rules that you both understand and don't overstep your bounds. It's OK to be friends and fool around. You know the saying 'friends with benefits'. You've been friends a long time and it should be easy to bring up the subject. (No pun intended)
2006-11-21 15:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just have sex u both want it so just do it see what happens if it doesn't work out then just stop "having fun with him"
2006-11-22 06:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what u feel, u r the one who will have to live with the decision in the end.
2006-11-21 17:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why hesitate, obviously think "safe sex" if semen is flying about but otherwise do what you both feel like and enjoy it without embarrassment
2006-11-22 01:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'd risk it as long as your comminication skills are OK. If it feels ooky stop it.
2006-11-21 15:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let him ball you. It might be fun., Weird but maybe fun. Or maybe not fun.
Try it and see. I would.
2006-11-21 15:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by blackbird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think what will you tell the grandkids.
Either way...good luck
2006-11-21 15:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋