Why do extroverts thing there is something wrong with introverts?

Question

I know a lot of extroverts who try to change introverts.

Introverts: what advice can you provide an extrovert who is in a relationship with an introvert?

(I'm trying to learn about how to respect my boyfriend's personality traits more.)

Answer 1

1) Respecting him how he is - excellent plan!

2) Introverts get their energy from inside, from being quiet. (An oversimplification, but please bear with me) Being with other people (an energizing experience for an extrovert) can be exhausting for an introvert - the more people around, the greater the feeling of work (for lack of a better word) and the sense of relief when it's over. It doesn't mean they don't love, or even like people; it does mean that the way they feel most comfortable engaging others is one-on-one & one @ a time. Whatever is exciting to an extrovert is tiring, even stressing to an introvert; who might (for instance) instead of a party like to have one or two friends over for dinner, or even be just as happy with a quiet evening at home.

3) Please keep in mind this is a generalization;
people are complex & also moving targets - they change as long as they are alive, and their feelings can change with the context of a situation. Although intro/extroversion is farely stable through the lifetime, I suspect that some people drift throughout their lives - especially those already near the center of this spectrum, who have nearly equal aspects of both in their makeup.

4)With all relationships, focussing on what you enjoy, share with & appreciate about the other person will help strengthen your bond; focussing on the differences can help you understand each other better but if that leads to dissatisfaction then you have to decide what you want in the relationship or at least what you cannot accept. A little respect, listening & kindness goes a very long way to helping relationships do well over time.

Hope this helps. Good Luck!

;-)

Answer 2

I have this feeling that there seems to be more extroverts than introverts in this world, which expects introverts to be extroverted. And that's probably one of the reasons some extroverts think there's something wrong with the introverts. It's like anywhere I go, I meet extroverted people. I might be wrong. I probably have encountered or met a few introverted people, too. Maybe there are introverts who've learned to be a little extroverted to try to fit in with the extroverted crowd. I've tried, and I always ended up being more of an introvert. I've found some people who can accept or appreciate my personality.

Answer 3

It's all about fearing and rejecting something you can't understand. Extroverts just can't understand why introverts would prefer to stay home instead be in the middle of a crowded dance floor which is exactly where they want to be. They can't imagine why introverts have a hard time striking up conversations with strangers because for them it's so easy.

Answer 4

double date, so you have someone to talk to,,,,,,
(your right, how can an extrovert answer this question? we just can't relate) we're bored and frustrated, it's so irritating to go out with an introvert, and have to socializing for two people, do all the talking, do all the jokes, and all you get is a nod, or a smile....... you can't make them socialize with us. The only thing I can see to do is compromise, go out, and he should let you socialize, and when your at home, you don't throw alot of party's, so he can have alone time.......
bad answer, I really can't wait to see your answers, this is a great question.