I have a month old baby that always cries when you put her down in her bed and then I pick her up and she stop

Question

s to cry. I hold her and she stops and so on this can go on for 3 hours at a time till she falls asleep. Can she be used to being held and what can I do I am going nuts. I changed her formula because I thought it was that and its not I am giving her NUTRAMIGEN LIPIL for no reason I think because I told the pediatrician that maybe its the milk what to do help

Answer 1

Your baby is very young and needs to be held, cuddled, and loved. Make sure she is fed, burped, dry and comfortable, and yes, her needs are demanding, but she is learning what she can depend upon to meet her needs--don't let her down. When she is older she should be able to entertain herself and not need so much holding and contact.

Answer 2

I saw a documentary on TV once where a man went to an orphanage somewhere and described it as eerily silent. It was because those babies with sub-standard care (there just weren't enough nurses or caregivers for the number of babies) had learned that their cries would go un-attended. So, can you train little babies to not cry when they have a need? Yes. Should you? No.

You CANNOT spoil a baby. Babies need (yes, need--not want) to be held. And they have a good reason for it. They are developing a bond with their parents. Babies need to know that their calls will be answered. At this point, the baby is learning to trust (or to not trust) people. The ability to trust is very important in every human relationship. What you do now will likely affect her ability to form and keep healthy relationships for the rest of her life.

In addition, holding your baby is good for you. It helps you to form a healthy attachment to her.

As you said, she may be used to being held. I am arguing that that is a good thing. As for the question of what you can do: Hold her when she needs to be held. Try to enjoy the time--in just a few months she will be walking all over and never have time to cuddle. If you feel you need a break, get a friend or family member to take care of her for a while while you go out and do something you enjoy.

Also, there could be a physical reason that she cries when she's down and stops when you pick her up. If she has gas (or reflux) her tummy feels better when she's in an upright position.

Please understand that I'm not saying that a child can never be spoiled at any age. Only that babies cannot be.

Answer 3

First of all....go to her when she cries. It will not spoil her in any way, shape of form. Pick her up and hold her, especially if she's crying. Certainly when you get opportunities to put her down drowsy, do it. But, around 4 months is a good time to try to "sleep train".

Try SWADDLING her. I swaddled each of my kids til they were almost 4 months old. It actually helped me get my kids used to the crib and bedtime at my house is pretty easy (1, 2.5 and 4 yr olds) Best blankets to use are from the hospital. Swaddle tightly, she's too young to kick out if you can swaddle correctly. Around 3.5-4 months is when they kick out. However, a lot of the times all they need is that tight secure feeling to fall asleep so quickly. Other things to try are SSHHING. Swaying. Noise--like white sound. Singing. Also, GasX or Little Tummies...for the gas. Or even a pacifier. Infants have a need to suck. If typical things are not quieting her down....then she might be colicky. Colic peaks around 6-8 wks. Also, since your pedi mentioned maybe it is milk--and she is already on the "colic" formula...it may require further invstigation, it could be Acid Reflux, GERD. It's along the same lines as Colic. May even need a prescription. Then, I would suggest finding some Colic/Gerd online help for suggestions from other parents going thru it...could be a bumpy road for several months. My neighbor's kid had it, took awhile to find the right things to calm the baby down. (bathtub running) Good luck.

Answer 4

My best friend is going through the same thing with her 2 month old! She says it's because the baby has always had someone holding her, and now she's spoiled and doesn't want to be put down. I don't know how you can get her used to not being held so much, but maybe you could start putting her in her swing or rocking her when you have trouble getting her to sleep. Then when she falls asleep, you can place her in her crib. My son loved to be rocked to sleep at night, and it usually didn't take too long. Hope you find something that works for you!

Answer 5

I have a 2 yr old and i avoided this by a simple plan my parents told me about... basically from what i can assume your baby either has lap baby already or is colicy....when i had my son i didn't hold him all that much. For the simple fact i didn't want him used to it and i thought it would also make him eventually more self reliant. I know it sounds cruel but it worked!! When i put him to bed he slept in his crib and not in my bed...he cried for a while but eventually he stopped. So now he is more reliant on him self doesn't want to be held much and usually only cries when hurt or ticked offf. I know its hard but it has and will pay off. You just have to stick to it and avoid the temptation of picking her up and letting her cry..oh and we had him on prosobe lipil when he was a baby cus he wouldn't burp. I hope this helps!!

Answer 6

Hahaha... your baby is very clever. He/ she has been cuddling by someone for past few days and likes the hugs very much. If you can bear a bit longer, try not to carry your baby the minute she cries.

Request your relatives / friends and even yourself not to carry him so often.

Another possible reasons for his cries is maybe due to colic. This cannot be help. It'll happen to all babies. It depends on whether it happen more / less. For this case you have to comfort him. Keeping your baby close to you in a body carrier. Motion and body contact may be soothing.
Giving your baby a pacifier, which may be comforting. Laying your baby on his or her stomach across your knees and rubbing baby's back.
Swaddling your baby in a blanket to make him or her feel snug and secure.
Finding someone else to care for the baby to give you a break from the stress of caring for a fussy baby. Even an hour of relief can help rejuvenate you and make you better able to cope with the situation.

Or put a little bit of chinese medical oil on his stomach after his bathing. This will help to take away some wind in his stomach.

This happens to me too when he's in his 1st month and even now (seldom). Best of luck...

Answer 7

I think your baby is having colic(windy stomach) due to her long period crying but i also advice you to check her diaper all the time since your baby is still 1 month old and they keep urinate or pass motion. Hungry also the main point and you should use the branded feeding bottle to feed her to reduce colic but i don't agree with switching the formula because all the formula are the same except their contains are different so breastfeeding is the best formula though. One main point is don't ever let your baby keep crying and crying...that is cruel!! ............... An advice from experienced mother of 5 beautiful kids (13, 11, 6, 4, and 7 months old).

Answer 8

I would have to agree that maybe it is colic. I work in a daycare in the infant room and we have a child like that. He wants to be held ALL THE TIME. Have you tried gas drops, they help if it is not colic. If she was fine on the other formula, there should be no reason to switch the formula. Sometimes, u just have to let the child cry. I know it sounds terrible, but the older she gets, the harder it is going to be for her to become independent. She knows that right now, u will run to her when she cries. If she is not wet, dirty, or anything, she will either cry herself to sleep or realize that "mommy is not gonna run to me every time i cry"

Answer 9

It sounds pretty normal for a month old baby. They want the comfort of the human touch in order to go to sleep. Yes, she can be used to being held, and it's not a bad thing. It will make for a more secure baby. In time she will feel more comfortable sleeping for longer stretches on her own in her bed. Just go with the flow and hang on for another few weeks.

Answer 10

Well she's got YOU trained. The reason she cries is because YOU pick her up when she does. (baby's may not think like adults but they're a hell of a lot smarter). Stop picking her up and let her cry it out. She will eventually fall asleep

Answer 11

mommy ur holding her too much...babies get tears when they cry if they can't cry no tears not to mention its good for thier lungs...not for ur ears though. If i were u id put her in a swing...turn some music on and walk away do laundry dishes or something she needs to cry and mommy, daddy, grandma and all those good people need to let her cry. Never let her cry more than an hour if she still wants to cry there may be something else going on...gas... colic etc.