TO MAKE A LOOOONNNG STORY SHORT: I like this guy, told him, he never asked me out or anything. Next day, turned out to be his dad's first death anniversary, i felt bad, emailed him this email that talked about him being strong and if he ever needed to talk blah blah blah! he told my best friend he would reply, but never did. and i have always been there for him for the past month, even when he isn't talkin to me now! Today I found out that some younger girl likes him and he might like her too! So now i cant believe i just thought that he wasnt sayin anything because he had so much on his mind. I cant stop cryin....any advice you will give me will help!
2006-11-21 14:20:52 · 17 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Actually...we aren't friends!
2006-11-21 14:27:36 · update #1
You should first stop crying and look out why you have to cry for this man. He might not be worth for you to cry for. If he likes somebody else, you could not really do a thing. You can't change his mind to like you. It's hurt , I know. However, while you are crying, there might be a suitable guy walking past you by. I don't want you to miss that new oppotunity of yourself. Think about it carefully. Life is yours. You'd better go on. What you did for him was enough, as a very good friend. Nothing left to be sorry for. Move on and take care of your own heart!
2006-11-21 15:03:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sunny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just does not like you like that. I think that you got a little too personal with him. Just back off for like a week and see what happens. If he likes that girl, dont say anything about it. Hey, this is actually happening to me right now so I need to take my own advice! lol. I am only a freshman but TV shows and some past times like these had lead me to believe that there are six things that cure a heartache:
1) A pint of any flavor of ice cream or chocolate
2) Slippers and P.J.
3) Napolean Dynamite (or any funny movie)
4) Shopping!!
5) A best friend
6) Dancing and going crazy in ur room (hey, it worked for me!!)
and
7) A good book.
Hope these things help!!
2006-11-21 22:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by <3 Emmi_rox <3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't gong to make you feel too much better but first you need to accept the possibility that this guy isn't romantically interested in you. It sounds like he sees you ONLY as a friend. However, he cares enough about your friendship to hide his true feelings for another girl. He probably had an idea that it would hurt your feelings if you found out which obviously, he's right. It's not easy to get over but trust your feelings won't be hurt for long. Let him go.
2006-11-21 22:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by ALeoStar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, so i think you may have come on a little strong towards him. You need to let the guy make the first move, how do i know? cuz it happened to me once and i learned the heard way. Don't lead yourself onto believing he likes just you because you don't know. Maybe he doensn't want a relationship, he might like a couple of girls and just wants to date, not get serious or anything. I suggest you back off a little, hard as it may be and then let him do the move makin. But don't let it all ruin your friendship!
2006-11-21 22:25:51 · answer #4 · answered by cutie pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do is stop beating yourself up over this whole thing. Its not your fault...you didnt know his father died...and what he's doing isnt your fault. Second, I would go to your friend and make sure that they're telling the truth and not just saying that to make you feel better. If your friend was telling the truth, I would just carefully and non-suspiciously find out if this "new" girl is for real...if it is...theres plenty more fish in the sea, if she isnt...try and try again...just not too much. Youll never get anywhere if you never try...Hope itll help and good luck with everything...
2006-11-21 22:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by nyokosorano18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just give the poor guy some time - going through a loved one's death, especially his father's - is a huge thing. He might be interested in you, but I'm sure a relationship is the LAST thing on his mind right now.
Just keep being there for him, keep being his friend, keep being a shoulder he can lean on...eventually, if it's meant to be, he will realize that you are the one who has been there for him through it all.
Don't push it...this guy is going through enough. Just be his friend; if you truly care about him, that's the best you can do for him during this difficult time.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 22:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by skatoolaki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over yourself. Just because YOU want a relationship with someone doesn't mean that they HAVE to want one with you. Obviously he didn't WANT a relationship with you which is WHY he didn't respond to your first advance. YOU are the one making a huge fantasy out of nothing and YOU are the one who let yuorself down. Before you attemp any other relationships I suggest you grow up.
2006-11-21 22:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying and move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. He was trying to tel you with his silence but you misunderstood that. Move on !
2006-11-21 22:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not cry for somebody,who does not deserve your tears.Be strong,and find a better man,who will love you indeed.Good luck.
2006-11-21 22:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of other fish in the sea for you to be crying over such an insensitive one.
2006-11-21 22:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by inquisitive 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋