I want to go out and party cause I am young and I like partying. I have no friends to take me. I met this guy and I wanna go see him at the bar cause he told me to come back. I feel like I am missing out on what most young people do. It's getting to the point where I am depressed about it. It makes me cry just thinking about it. I feel like my life is lame and I will never meet friends. When I went out last week I felt so free and happy.I actually had fun like I haven't in a long time. I socialized and met people and had the best time. I guess it was a bad idea because it gave me a little tast and now I'm craving more, but can't get to it. I can't go by myself it's too dangerous. What should I do about it? Is this something to be depressed over or am I just a crazy person?
2006-11-21 14:17:07 · 7 answers · asked by So'sYerFace 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
there's no girls at work and I don't go to school
2006-11-21 14:27:39 · update #1
What you need to do is figure out what you want and figure out how to get it. You are already halfway there. You want more of a social life. That's completely understandable, and of course you are not crazy. It's mad depressing when you feel like you have no life.
How can you get there? I'm totally sympathetic to your objections. Going out alone can be dangerous when there's alcohol involved, and socializing in general is hard once you leave school. Maybe the answer is to go back to school, to take classes in things that interest you. Maybe you can ask coworkers to go out for Happy Hour. Maybe you can join a club or something. Do you knit? I think some Stitch 'n' Bitches meet at bars, but I could be making that up. There are other organizations, though, like Drinking Liberally, if you're a progressive into politics. Maybe you don't want a club that meets at bars in particular, but they'll hook you up with other people with similar interests (whatever the club meets for and yummy, yummy alcohol).
2006-11-21 14:38:55 · answer #1 · answered by random6x7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't think about getting depressed, because you will worry yourself into a hole. Find a group you are comfortable with and like to be around, such as a volunteer group, a civic group, a charity, a church group, sports group, a YMCA, something along those lines that will at least get you out and allow you to network in a safe public setting. I'd be wary of guys at bars who want you to go there for them (as a guy I can say this, you go to bars to get drunk, get lucky or both). At anyrate you shouldn't be wasting time crying and thinking the grass is greener on teh other side, there is an old adage that we should focus on "growing happiness under our feet, not looking for it in the distance." Change your world, work on living the way and in teh place you want to live, you have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste it sitting at home crying. This doesn't mean you have to be a slut to be popular, the "real" you should appeal to the crowd you want to be with.
2006-11-21 22:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You r not crazy just young. You are hungry of life and that's good, try to find another activities u enjoy, join latin dance classes, guitar, piano, body painting, I don't know! something u like there u will meet new people in safe environment, people who has things in common with u,and I'm sure u will start hanging out with some of them and ppl outside those classes will find u more interesting and will want to be ur friend. Kikiss :)
2006-11-21 22:38:50 · answer #3 · answered by lynn00 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change your focus. Take up jogging or go swimming, or something else you like. The exercise will make you feel better and you will meet people having fun in other ways. It may lead back to where you want to go.
2006-11-21 22:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by asiwant 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, instead of a bar, go to a public gym, it's also a great place to find a nice girl and you get to exercise which helps alot when it comes to stress. volunteer for things like coaching a little league, take dance lessons, volunteer at a homeless shelter for thanksgiving, friends can be made anywhere so don't be so quick to attach yourself to them, if you do, you spread yourself thin, you don't want that.
2006-11-21 22:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find some girls at school/work that will go with you.
2006-11-21 22:26:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
st johns wort or antidepressants or meditation
2006-11-21 22:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋