2006-11-21 13:50:30 · 57 answers · asked by Kelly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
PLEASE!! DO NOT GET AN ABORTION! It will solve nothing.
Yes, you made a huge mistake, hopefully you will not do it again. But you have to have this baby and give it as much as you can, whether you put it up for adoption, or keep it. Talk to someone!! it is better than to wait it out, you made the mistake and you can't go back, you can only go forward, so many people love you. I'm sure.
Talk to someone and you'll be okay....
2006-11-21 14:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by coconut_lime1011 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
First things first... give yourself a day or two to let this sink in... i know you will hear this again and again.. however you are just a child yourself. I am 21 and married and even I am having problems with the emotional portion because I fear we should have waited. This is a big step, and a permanent one, whether u keep it or not. After you let it sink in, look at your options, and be realistic, your baby can not live in a fantasy world. It will need real things and you will need real support. Get your options from a doctor, not hear say, that can scare you. If you are comfortable, talk to your parents, and think about the baby's father. He has a right to know, no matter what u think his reaction will be. I knwo its scary but you will regret not thinking everything through logically wth all your cards on the table. Keep your head up and make the best descision for you and your unborn. Good luck.
2006-11-21 13:59:52 · answer #2 · answered by crystlegruber 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the interest of identifying bias, I will say that I'm in the adoption camp.
That said: you really really need to talk with people in your real ife. Communication is essential at this point. Do you want to keep the baby? You need to know whether you will have sufficient help available. It really does take a village to raise a child. Do you want an abortion? I think there are women who have abortions and never look back. I'm pretty sure there are women who have abortions and regret it for the rest of their lives. Do you want to give the baby up for adoption? Any of these alternatives are pretty heavy-duty.
Google search
Advanced search (exact phrase) juan diego society
http://www.yellowpages.com/sp/ypbrowse/CA/San_Jose/Abortion_Alternatives
The reason I included the search process is that I don't know where you live. There are a number of Google search hits for this query, and there are more listings in yellowpages.com as well.
Is your child's father in any position to help support the child? Do a Google search for "child support (so-and-so) county (your state)." If that doesn't help, then call your local welfare office. Not because you want welfare (although that is an option), but because the welfare-office people will be able to tell you how to get in touch with the child-support people.
2006-11-21 14:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by amy02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 15, now I'm 26. Sometimes I wish I would have waited till I was married and done with school to be a mom, it would have been a lot easier, but then I think about where my life would have gone if I had not had my baby. Having her made me stop running away and doing things that were not safe for me. Do what YOU want to do, don't let anyone make the decision for you, it's you body, your life, your future. There are options out there about what to do with your pregnancy and all kinds of resources for pregnant teens and teen moms if you choose to keep your baby. There are also homes for pregnant teens if you feel your home life is not the greatest. It's not easy to raise a baby, not even for adults..but it is possible. Remember to Finnish school at what ever cost (there are schools for teen parents to) education is the most important..it took me a long time to find that out. I wish you the best of luck, and you make the choice that's best for YOU, not anyone else.
2006-11-21 22:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by mommy of 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first: STOP. Take a deep breath and slow down some. You are undoubtedly scared and unsure of the situation. You need to get your parents involved in this ASAP, as they will most likely figure it out soon enough. Yes, they will be upset and disappointed, but, they are your parents. They deserve to know. Also, prepare to give up the name of the daddy. But, be warned-he will most likely face serious charges for this(stat rape).
Second: See the doctor. Your health is the most important thing right now. Physically, you should be able to carry to full term, but there is a strong chance of miscarriage at your age. However, you need to keep yourself strong right now. There are those who call for abortion, and those who call for adoption. If you are able to deliver this baby, I recommend the latter (adoption).
Third: Please take some serious lessons from this! Don't have anymore sex until you are much older. If you do, you risk this again, and it could be multiple the next time. It feels good to be with a boy, but, as you can see, where is he when you need him?? Apparently nowhere around.
In short, you are human, and you made a mistake. Please learn from it, and take heart--love yourself for who you are.
2006-11-21 19:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mudcat007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, girl this is a tough one... first off you should tell your boyfriend, and your parents... then have a meeting w/ everyone together and try to think of what's going to be best for you, your boyfriend and the baby... they have many options out there that you can go to! They have alot of adoption agencies and even schools girls can go to until the baby is born, and then there are also other alternatives like abortions and stuff... but since you're so young you're parents would have to probably give consent ( because you're so young) just don't do anything drastic...
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-21 16:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Buckwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your parents. You might be scared but its better for you in the long run. You need to get medical attention. There are choices that you have to make. You have to decide wether to have an abortion, give the baby up for adoption, or keep the baby. This is a choice that is between you and your parents. No one can or should affect this decision of yours. They don't live your life and they don't know what it personally best for you. So go ahead girl and talk to your parents. Good luck.......
2006-11-21 14:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by luvurbabyegrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Kel,
It must be such a difficult time for you mate. But take it easy. A baby is a blessing and don't forget that no matter what your age is. Talk to someone about, whether it be your Mum, Dad or someone that is close. Don't get an abortion, you will be thinking about it for the rest of your life. Just be honest, with everyone and accept all the help that people offer. Take Care mate. I had a baby young and I have never and will never regret having him. He is gorgeous.
2006-11-21 13:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Jess B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what is right in your heart. If you think you can raise a baby which takes alot of time and love then go for it. it will also help if you have a good family that will stick behind you 100% no matter what! It takes two to make a baby, so talk to the father and see what he thinks is best. if you can't give a baby the right ways in life why bring it in to the world..........there are many things you can do but the first thing you need to do is just talk to someone that loves you and knows you well. good luck
2006-11-21 13:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you should've thought of the consequences before doing what you did... but enough for the blames... it is there already and all you have to do is to face it.... face reality...
first you must tell your parents about it... They could give you the best advice although they would surely get mad at you... then talk to the father and his family....
I never recommend abortion... the baby is innocent... he doesn't have a sin or a fault in this situation so it is very unjust for him if he would be the one to suffer from your faults.
Better have it and then let someone responsible have him... when the right time comes... you could get him back or prefer to let the person take care of him...
be strong... face everything... it's reality... god bless and good luck... killing an innocent is not good...
2006-11-21 23:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by fudgee_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to calm down. Everything is going to be okay. You need to sit your mom down and have a heart to heart talk with her and the sooner the better. Just lay it all on the line and be honest let your mom talk and let her express her feelings. Just understand that our mom be upset but it is only because she loves you. Whatever you do decide make sure you think about every option you have and make your decision wisely. You are becoming an adult now, it is time to grow up and be responsible for your your actions. I know it may seem scary at times but just keep on smiling everything will be fine.
2006-11-21 13:59:09 · answer #11 · answered by teaparty mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋