I am 13 and I have really bad social skills. And I don't have any friends I hang out with.. I am REALLY resposible so no i am not a bad kid. HELP!
2006-11-21 13:49:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Participate in Sports and volunteer in your community, this will enhance the skills you lack, and help build your self-esteem. Good luck!
2006-11-21 13:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry too much, at 13 everyone has really bad social skills. One of the things you can do is to spend time watching the race, the human race. Watch how people interact and consider what is good or bad about their interaction. Copy the good things and learn not to do the bd things. Observe how people eat, walk, talk, observe how they greet others and what is or isnt approrpiate. The most important social skill to have is the simplest, just smile. Smiles tell people you are freindly and okay to be around. Smiles warm other peoples day and make you more approachable. And you know 13 is like every other age..... it does pass... all things pass...
Keep smiling.
2006-11-23 08:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pit,
I know where you're coming from, as a former shy 13 year old. I was overweight, awkward, had family issues, etc., and yes it does get better. Personally, I got a lot of practice socializing at summer camp, even finding out that I was a lot funnier and sociable than I thought I was. I agree with other folks that the best way to practice is to go into situations that you need to be social, but I also used a few other tricks. Literally. I learned some jokes (clean and dirty), figured out how to do some cool magic tricks (look up something called the balducci levitation, and practice practice practice), and some juggling moves. This worked for me, it might or might not for you.
The point here is find something that interests you, get into it, and you'll either find people with similar interests, or you'll meet someone with their own interests and you can just compare notes with each other. Always remember: you are not alone, and certainly not the only person that feels this way. If you can walk up to other people your age and just say, "hell, man, it's hard to meet cool people", you'd be suprised how many people will genuinely like and respect you for being a genuine person.
Be yourself, and if they can't handle it, find some people who can. Trust me, they're out there.
2006-11-21 16:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by See Edward 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to develop your social skills is to place yourself in social situations. Join groups and activities at school, or volunteer for things in your community. Become a mentor for younger kids. Anything you do will help out more than doing nothing, right? The best way to make a friend is to be a friend.
2006-11-21 14:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Pit bull if you are trying to go out and make friiends first word of advice is keep it honest when you talk to people. Never tell anyone anything you can not prove. People, especailly girls, don't like guys who are fake. Start small, approach someone thats a classmate and just start general conversation, like if you like sports and you see this other person does talk about that. Be confident ( well as much as you can) when your talking. Then maybe after awhile you will make friends with this person and they will introduce you to their friends.
Its good you are responsible, there are not a lot of kids your age who are. Have you thought about joining a club? The boys and girls club or one at your school. That away you would be amongest people of common interests. This may make things easier for you.
Good luck. Tigger
2006-11-21 14:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to people and make friends with them. Go to their house or invite them to yours. If a girl, take her to a good restaurant and have a good meal. Get a good job as well, so you don't run out of money. If you are still in high school, I suggest you study really hard, and never give up.
Have some spirit in yourself!
2006-11-24 20:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order to get social skills you have to break out of your comfort zone and start talking with kids your age. find someone else who may be in your situation. people who have similar backrounds tend to bond quickly. once you find one good friend. the rest is downhill.
2006-11-21 17:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i strongly agree with your first answerer, put yourself in situations where you have to socialize as the main part of the activity. it should help, hey you're only 13. life gets better.
2006-11-21 14:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by Eryc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are 13 then you are doing just what u r supposed to do, enjoy it while you still have it, let life take care of itself and enjoy your journey, you r a born leader and you will have people following you very soon, then pick your friends from them.
2006-11-25 10:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, its there lost not urs .when u finally get some friends there going to be life long friends & today thats what u need. GOOD LUCK TO U !
2006-11-21 14:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by t10t15t66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋