2006-11-21 13:35:31 · 26 answers · asked by Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Falling in love is quite easy to do. Just because you're married doesn't make you suddenly neutral and can no longer be attracted or attractive to another.
But what is sometimes difficult is honoring the vows you made to another person to love & respect them for the rest of your life.
I suggest you get your mind on your spouse and off of this other person. You are entertaining fantasy at the moment. But if you continue on this path, you are in for some serious heartache.
2006-11-21 13:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the question u ask is generalised, then the answer could be yes. But then, we would have to consider the causes for love outside a marriage. It could be possible that the married couple are just not compatible and do not love each other. In that case, a warm angle from another person (outside marriage) is a welcome relief. U tend to connect to that outsider more plainly more because of the disconnect with ur married partner.
It would be difficult to classify this as love unless u give it time to build. But u cannot allow it to build for too long...or ur guilt conscience starts playing up. So it's a mixed bag. Maybe an extra marital affair gives pleasure sexually but mentally and emotionally it finishes u off.
Don't get attracted to someone else when married (at least try). It disturbs the psyche of everyone around u (u included). try n work out ur relation with ur partner. If it doesn't work out even after spending quality time, be brave and file for a divorce. Till then don't pity urself and look for solace outside ur marriage.
Hope that explains a few things!!!
2006-11-21 22:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by surya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think anyone can fall in love at any time, but if you are married and falling in love with someone else then you need to think about the vows you made to your partner and why you married them in the first place. Falling in love doesnt just happen overnight. If you have been falling for someone other than your partner maybe you should stop seeing that person for a while and work out why youre not in love with your partner anymore. And also whether it really is love or just infatuation. You dont want to ruin a marriage just for a crush.
2006-11-21 21:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After marriage, if you are not compatible with partner and feel that u r in hell, and later u find a compatible partner like.....then u would defenetly fall in.
* Conditions apply.
You are not responsible to the person to whom u r married & If u r having kids.
Falling in love does not require to leave the married life. You can continue loving the other person...by deceiving others. Because love can not be seen in a shape...its just a feeling.
2006-11-21 22:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, but just saying that they married the wrong person if they are in love with another. Thats why rushing into marriage is the wrost thing, and so many people split up after getting married because they realize that they love another. Best thing to do is end it now, and next time learn from your mistakes and dont do it again.
2006-11-21 21:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure it happens all the time. However it's probably the lure of the forbidden and unknown that makes the other person seem more attractive than your spouse who you see every day. Remember you made a commitment for life. Unless there are truly problems that can't be fixed and you divorce because of that, you need to focus on what you have, not what you think you want.
2006-11-21 21:40:30 · answer #6 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse; why not, marriage is not a restriction for love. But, one's love should be based on heart and mind. By loving to others as a human being one can demolish hatism. Lord Krishna was also a great and good lover, though he is married.
But, now days it is hated by society. So, don't try this.
2006-11-21 23:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes for surely. But you should not cheat your wife. Just think how would you react if your wife makes love with any other person after marriage.
2006-11-21 23:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by OnlineGandhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotionally - You are right, its possible, specially if you are not happy/satisfied with your spouse.
Ethically - Incorrect.
Socially - Incorrect.
The Way Ahead - Seperate from your present spouse, if that relationship is not getting you anywhere, and move along with new partner.
Piece of Advise - You can't have everything you want in your life. Marriage means compromise, but still I must say all have a limit of patience. Please see for yourself, is it love or just infatuation? I believe it is the latter.
Keep enjoying......
2006-11-22 01:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by GS 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is sacred bonded by the church, if your relationship is on the rocks - both of you should work it out for the sake of your family especially the children. For better or for worse, for richer and poorer you should be together in facing your trials and challenges in life.
Pray, ask guidance and direction from God so that anyone of you will not be tempted from any kind of immoral acts.
2006-11-21 21:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by a2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋