my best friend and i got in a fight over something rather silly. she made a rasist comment, the whole school found out and was mad. i didnt have her back and now she hates me. my school did mean things to her like put a sign on our locker[we share a locker] that had to belts, one white one black, and it said do you have a problem with this. and threw a white 'hat' over her head and said go join the KKK. i feel really bad for not having her back and she wolnt forgive me and thinks i only am apoligizing cause noone belives shes raistis but thats not true. im really truely sorry and she doesnt belive me. please help me.
2006-11-21 12:32:49 · 4 answers · asked by abcdefghILOVEYOU 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girl, first of all..it's spelled racist. :) There's my spelling comment for the day.
Anyway--why didn't you have her back? Best friends will always be there for one another. She made a stupid comment & it hurt her badly...but, she needed you & you were not there. The best advice that I can give is to write her a long letter about how you're sorry, how much your friendship means to you....and then include that you understand if she doesn't want to be friends anymore, but that you will be right there waiting for her if she decides that she wants to talk to you, and then leave it at that.\
Good luck!
2006-11-21 12:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you best friend was any kind of friend she would have not made the racists remark that she made, it seem she deserved what she got. I know your intentions were to help her but I think you did the right thing by backing out and letting her tough it out for herself so she will learn that sometimes what she says that is really offensive to people and not something she should do.Whether or not she is racists does not give the right to make a racist remark concerning white and black people or people of any other color. She may hate you but if she is really you friend she will calm down and talk to you and she might agree that what she did was wrong, but if she does not own up what happen and does not want to be friends with you anymore then maybe the friendship was not meant to be.
2006-11-21 20:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend made a racist comment then she needs to mature and realize that we all suffer our own consequences for things that we do to hurt others. Perhaps she should be considering who she is hurting by making comments of that nature and think a little less of her own feelings.
What were you supposed to do to defend her? Say that you agree with her? Say that she never made such comments?
I would merely tell her that you don't agree with the comments and if you truly think she is not racist then tell her that you still care about her and hope that you can both get past this. If she doesn't accept this then she's not willing to forgive what she sees as your mistake but certainly expects others to forgive hers.
2006-11-21 20:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is try your best. If you didn't support her because you were scared then tell her and wait for her to trust you again. But if she is really racist then maybe you should find a new best friend. Racists people don't look at things objectively.
2006-11-21 20:39:09 · answer #4 · answered by klein1017 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋