is 6 years too early to be planning for a baby?

Question

When my husband and I got preggy the first time I was so nervious because it was unexpected. I didn't have ANYTHING!!!! I became anxious because I started thinking about all of the things you would need to care for a child properly.
Unfortunately, we had a miscarriage and the doctors weren't able to tell us why. (I was so distraut about it)
Anyway, on the bright side, I am able to plan for the next.
I don't want it to happen for another 6 years, because I want to finish school, and that will be the time when I discharge from the Military.
I want to have my own business and I also want to purchase a house. I want the baby to have a college savings investment and I don't want to have to work.
Now, considering diapers and clothes, is 6 years too soon for me to be planning?

ps. I don't want to have to work because I want to home school my child. I've already started buying clothes for a baby (only sale items) and I plan on putting them in storage bins and putting them away.

Oh and one more thing...
as far as clothes and styles changing, come on now, I LOVED the little dresses I used to wear as a lttle baby, they were so cute and I still like them. I only have one of the outfits I used to wear when I was a baby and I wish I had more. Think of them as Vintage. I don't really care about "whats in" I care about quality.

Answer 1

its not soon to plan for the baby but, i think it is too soon to start buying baby things.
do u think that u could still be very depressed about the miscarriage? maybe u should see a counselor provided by the miliatary. good luck

Answer 2

I think that you have a very sensible head on your shoulders, but I hope that you don't go out bulk buying nappies, since they might not fit your baby.
But a little planning never hurts, and I think that you will be a great mom because of how you are approaching motherhood.
Buying clothes is fine, don't worry about those who say it's silly because of styles changing...they might change, but your opinion of what you want your baby to wear won't. I am constantly on the look out for things that my daughter can wear in a few years time, and have stuff up to the age of 6 years, she's only 18 months at the moment.

Answer 3

I would suggest you wait. At least get to 18 months and see if you really want a second one as that child is getting into EVERYTHING! If your major concern is the risk of having babies in your thirties, don't worry. Women who have their 1st child at 35 are considered higher risk, but to have your second one at 35 is not considered risky and hasn't shown an increase in the likelihood of Down's Syndrome or other similar disorders. Pregnancy is hard on your body and it is good to give it some time to regulate. I would suggest starting again around 2 or 2 1/2. The more time it takes, the more time your first has to grow and the more understanding they will be about the new sibling coming to the world.

Answer 4

It's really good to plan ahead, especially for a baby.

But, I would also consider the fact that maybe you will have more miscarriages, or there might be a possibility that you can't have children. And when you buy all this baby stuff, you will always have to look at it and remind you that you can't.

I just brought this up because the same exact thing happened to one of my best friends. After her first miscarriage, she immediately started to plan about their baby that they wanted in 4 years. 4 years came and they couldn't have one. She has even had many infertility treatments and tons of counseling. But, all the baby stuff just makes her more depressed each day.

Answer 5

My husband and I waited 6.5 years before having a baby and it has paid of so well! we have everything you are planning for and more, you can do somuch and plus, you get to build up a stronger relationship with your husband and that will make your baby even a happier baby, nothing like mom and dad want the baby the same way! I have had the nursery room all finished since I was 4 months pregnant, nobody has bought anything for us, we have been able to affor everything the baby will need, we are so blessed that we have been able to do that. Remeber the older you are the wiser you get and the better that is for your child. Good luck! I am glad my 6.5 years have passed and now we are pregnant with our first little blessing from heaven.

Answer 6

I don't think that 6 years is too early to plan for a baby. Just be ready for changes to occur and take it slow. Sometimes we can plan things out in our heads and they can turn out totally different from what we were planning. Don't overthink it either. You don't want to drive yourself crazy and become stressed. Of course, it is hard to not be stressed with things, but don't take on too much at once. Having a baby is a lot of work, but so worth it. Also, your baby isn't going to care about all the stuff you are wanting to do, he/she is just going to want you. Trust me, I've been there and am there now. I have 2 small kids and sometimes your life has to be on hold, for you to be able to fully spend time and have time with your kids.

Take it slow this next time with getting pregnant, but on the otherhand it could happen and you might not be prepared again. Embrace the moment when it happens and enjoy the life inside you. I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've never had one, but can only imagine the emotional pain that comes with it. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

Firstly just want to say I'm sorry for your loss and i think you are wise to wait until you have the thing you want to provide a good life for your future child. But If you start buying now then in 6 years you will only start buying again as the clothes you have bought will be out of date. Its great to buy when you find out your pregnant if you buy now it will take the fun away. my advise would be to wait babies cost a fortune anyway so you don't want to spend money on clothes you will probably replace as well.
good luck

Answer 8

i wouldnt be buying clothes bc at this point you dont know what season the baby will come or if it will be a boy or a girl. i think buying diapers and such right now is a great idea. buy a little at a time and by the time the baby comes you should be all set till the kid is potty trained. you can also buy other things you'll need like bottles, blankets, pacifiers...etc. i dont see any harm in that!

Answer 9

Wow, sounds like a plan to me. I never start getting anything for the baby until a few months before its born, but with 6 years to do that, you will definitley be prepared. I like the idea of the savings investment for the baby too, etc..and the homeschooling is always an excellent idea too.

Answer 10

I wouldn't buy clothes, diapers, or things like that so far in advance. You never know what will change or be in style. There's nothing wrong with planning out that you want a baby in 6 years though.