In my entire life, all I have ever wanted was to be loved by somebody. Here I am, past my midlife, and I still have no love in my life. I have seen nothing but rejection, I've been lied to, and been taken advantage of. I just don't see any point to go on living. Can you?
2006-11-21 12:02:45 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel your pain. I often fear that my lonliness will carry throughout my life and sometimes it gets the best of me. I'll meet someone, things will seem great, but it always comes to a screeching halt. When it does, it seems that everything comes tumbling down with it.
I have a friend who is around 60, never married, only gets dated sporadically, lives in an apt with his cats and watches his diabetic neighbor to make sure she's coherent. It's not the life he chose or wanted, or really even likes, but he made it a point to forge friendships and he's been a friend of the family as long as I can remember. He comes for all our family holidays and we love him dearly.
If you still work, try to find people to be friends with. If your work environment isn't a great place for that, try finding activities that excite you and do those. Pottery, shooting pool, art, gardening, historical reenactments...there is something for everyone. Not only will you have some time to do something you enjoy, but you will meet people with the same interests. When you do, try your hardest to put on a happy face. People are more likely to strike up a conversation with a happy person. If you look as sad as you are, they might feel odd approaching you.
I've always found that when you finally start doing things to make you feel better and say damn to everyone else, someone fantastic always shows up. Even if they don't, you are still better off than you were before.
2006-11-21 12:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Crimson Ananda 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We've all been lied to, taken advantage of and a lot worse. So what if you're past your midlife? Many people don't find love until way after that, and some people were meant to go through this life alone, but happy.Finding love isn't the answer to everything. If you're unlucky with certain friends, change direction and look for a new crowd who will like you for who you are. If you're stuck in a rut, you're young enough to start again in a new place. It's up to you to make a new start, a new life for yourself. Suicide is the coward's way out, are you a coward? We are all born for a reason, find yours. Maybe you should visit your doctor to discuss depression? I want to turn on my computer in the morning, well later today because it's 1:20am here, and see you posting or answering questions. Don't let me down.
2006-11-21 12:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can think of many reasons, first of all from reading your post ,you sound really down on yourself, snap out of it! The world as a whole has not rejected you. You must learn to love yourself before expecting others to love you. We all have qualities that are unique in our own little world. The reason people take advantage of you and lie is because you are a trusting person and sadly there are those in society who prey on souls like yourself. But fear not my friend, there is hope around the corner you need only to be humble from your experiences and acknowledge the wisdom you've gained. There are some people who will never gain this wisdom because they fear the unknown. You on the other hand should look in the mirror and see that your a veteran of life's hard knocks. Don't look for love, it will find you when you least expect it.
2006-11-21 12:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by artic ranger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You arent living in the small world. Be positive. Don't give up. Don't Pessimist and be happy. Perhaps you have to check out why you have been rejected, lied to, taken advantage of, and etc? ...
Dont expect higher for Love you will end up get nothing. Coz Find the love one is not easy ...
2006-11-21 12:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Happythrower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is not about being loved nor being told the truth! Life is about living the way you want to live it. Disregarding others wrongful doings towards you is inevitable. Thats just how life is! Get past all that and theres a whole new world worth living for!
The only one responsible of being taken advantage is you. too nice too helpful. stand your ground, take charge! Dont look for love! at the same time dont hide!
2006-11-21 12:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by hondalos11 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't. But, there are alternatives. Big ones. New realities. This is the end of the road you come to when you've been subjected to and lived by the world's lies. There is another way. Suicide doesn't solve anything. Degrading yourself and going along with the rest of them isn't it either else you wouldn't have stated this. You still hope for something pure, decent, and good. It does not proceed from humankind. In seeking it, you will find it. Few if any have.
2006-11-21 12:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure I do ... and so should you. Just because you haven't found that special somebody, it doesn't mean that she doesn't exist. If I were you, I would keep on looking ... but at the right places. Please remember that a good fruit only falls from a good tree. She may be very near to you and you don't even know it yet.
You mention that you want love, but did you know that If you want to be loved (and who doesn't) you have to first give love? Did you know that if you want to be respected, you have to respect also? Most women would thank their lucky stars to have an honest and loving man ... and he doesn't have to be the sexiest man alive. Beauty is only skin deep. Remember that it's the character that either makes or breaks a man ... not looks.
Be careful with your choice of women. When you find a good one, don't let her go ... love and respect her ... be honest and candid with her and you will not regret it. Here's to your future bride and happiness. Good luck.
2006-11-21 12:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by maryc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer everyone can make sure available purpose in life right now, it takes time. yet you've been made for a purpose, everyone who lives has a purpose. yet everyones authentic purpose is got here upon by Christ. We were made to worship God. in the adventure that your friends manage you that way, then they don't seem your authentic acquaintances. you want to locate some that receives excitement from you for who you're. each and every from time to time its extra useful to have one reliable pal then various of acquaintances who do not continually care about you. you're literally not a loser, and also you're literally not ineffective or pathetic. element of growing to be up ability finding out the position your meant to be and what your purpose is. the position you fit in. you'll make sure it out, untill then, delight in life and that's known annoying circumstances! Theres continually the reliable issues that make up for the undesirable. you've purely one life to stay, so stay it! :]
2016-11-29 08:43:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all had bad times in our lives, but, don't give up. I'm sure better thing are yet to come. I think you should continue living. Just realize how sad the people that do love you would feel if you were to take your life. It's a horribly selfish act. You need to go out, and make your life happier. You can do it. Good luck. ~~~
2006-11-21 12:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be any different from anyone else? Everyone on the planet has experienced being rejected and lied to and they don't consider suicide. They get right back out there and keep looking until they find the right person for them. You need to do the same. Put yourself back out there and do not loose hope. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-21 12:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by pupcake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋