What kind of man do i want him to be? Advice please!!
2006-11-21 11:53:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is 5 years old
2006-11-21 12:21:21 · update #1
it is(WAS) his first fish and he loves Flippy yes he actually gave it a name flippy.
2006-11-21 12:25:57 · update #2
Big deal funeral and bury it.So that he will always have a soft spot in his heart. My big sis did this with me, and it forever gave me the impression that every life is precious.
2006-11-21 11:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Raven Hood® 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In many cases, not all, the act of flushing the toilet while someone is taking the shower, takes the hot water away from the person that is showering. It's not that the person taking the shower doesn't have hot water for a long time, but they do lose it for a little while. The water will turn cold, and that could make a person angry and cause their skin to go into shock for a bit. That is why it is a big deal.
2016-05-22 10:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that matches his interest level in it.
If it's a BIG BIG deal to him then respond at that same level.
If he's like "oh, hm. ok. What's for dinner anyway?" then you can make it a quicker thing.
Either way this can be a learning opportunity for him. ANd if you do just flush it and it crushes him then that can make him worry/concerned that he will "miss things" in life and start to hide things or protect them because he feels out of control. Like "The fish died and the next thing I know I am told it's in the toilet...." and worry.
Overall, communicate. This could start to teach him about death, etc. and allow him to understand and process it. Answer his questions or you might come in the bathroom to find him taking it apart to bring the fishy back to life! (if he doesn't understand...)
You know his personality best but hope this helps.
2006-11-21 12:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want him to be a man. Life is a struggle. There are disappointments, suffering and loss. We have to develop a sense of proportion... what is really important and what isn't. As a child, we develop that sense of proportion by watching our parents for their reactions. What they deem critical, we deem critical. And we carry that through to adulthood.
My granddaughter is three. She was afraid of thunder, till my wife and I clapped and laughed each time. We went out on the porch to watch the rain... pointing out the lightning then waiting for the thunderclap to follow. We made it a game. Now she isn't afraid. After all, if we thought thunder was fun, how could she not?
He suffered a loss. Be sensitive to that. But it's a frigging goldfish! He didn't lose a parent or a sibling. It's not a big thing unless you make it one. If you do, lots and lots of little things in his life will become big ones (to him).
Your son needs courage and strength to survive in the world of an adult male. Give him that. Flush the fish.
2006-11-21 12:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by antirion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't bothered and want you to just "get the dead one out the tank" then flush. If he is upset by it, then spending 10 minutes with him, placing it in a little box and buying it will probably be somethnig that he remembers you doing for him for the rest of his life.
Children DO remember little acts of kindness that we might consider "no big deal" - especially if they are saddened by something.
As for "what kind of man", hopefully one who is thoughtful towards his children - and will spend time wit them when they need to say googbye to something they loved.
It may only be a "cheap fish" to you - but for him, it perhaps meant a great deal - especially if this is also the first time he has encountered death in some way.
Your call, but he WILL remember how you handled it - just like you might remember what happened to your pet
2006-11-21 12:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mark T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old is your son?
second how attached was he to the fish?
This could be a life lesson on death for him if you have the funeral and it will allow for closure if this is a really big thing
2006-11-21 11:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by nmp948 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make the flush down the toilet a ceremony, but don't go overboard, cuz that would be lame, just say "ok, he's gone... there he goes, buh' bye! He was a good fish", then FLUSH and leave it at that.
Don't overcomplicate it, it's just a goldfish.
2006-11-21 12:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Say it like it is 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the funeral will give him more appreciation for living creatures. It does not have to be a "big deal funeral". Just a nice quiet burial and a simple explanation of death. If it were my son, I would want to instill in him the value of life at an early age.
2006-11-21 12:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by bugged 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do the whole funeral thing that fish probably meant alot to him and no it wont make him gay it will make him a caring individual and lord knows we need a whole heck of alot of them
2006-11-21 12:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by tyty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain [sincerely] that his goldfish wont be coming back and have a proper toilet flushing.
2006-11-21 12:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by Brianna M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋