Why is it that after so many years, I still find myself alone, without a friend in the world. I am a good person, kind, loving, and always helpful. Yet, here I am sitting all by myself, with only the computer as my friend. What have I done wrong?
2006-11-21 11:49:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NOTHING! friends come in many forms these days. if a computer can fill a void and work as an ally - why reject it - go with it - especially if it helps.
If you are a good person - you need to get out there and meet others. no matter how hard - you have to find something you enjoy and see where you can go to mix and mingle with people who have the same likes.
As far as tonite - well - there is TV. With over 150 channels these days - it is hard to be bored. lose yourself in a movie.
but better yet - make alist - on paper - of all the things you like about yourself and things you enjoy. then google (yep - back on the computer) all the key words.
BUILD A ROADMAP for your self. you may find groups and organizations that you can sign up for.
I enjoy my solitude at times. I don't sucumb to the pressure of needing people around me all the time.
You are never alone.
2006-11-21 11:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done nothing wrong. The only thing is you are too sensitive and nice. That is a good thing!
Please understand that most of us have been in your situation. We feel isolated and think the world has just forgotten us. We have all had times when the computer was our only friend.
You need to take a chance and step out of your safety zone. You should find a hobby club or special interest group. That would get you out and talking to people once in a while. You can usually find these listed in the paper, at hobby stores, or at the library.
Another great way to get out and meet people is to become active in a church. They love to have single people get involved with their activities. Single people have a way of attracting more singles to church activities.
Be willing to meet new people on line. You can always email or IM them when you want to talk.
The most important thing is for you to get out and talk to real people as soon as possible.
2006-11-21 20:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be that your on a site that is mostly young people, like a quarter of your age. Try going out somewhere in your community and find someone your own age to relate to. Go to a bowling alley, join a gym, go to church... but coming on these chat lines isn't going to improve your life any!
Of course if your on here trying to pick up some young unsuspecting girl to feel sorry for you so you can then convince her to have sex with you,,,,, then that's called being a pedofile and you need to get off this space and leave the kids here alone!
2006-11-21 19:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by redneon3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the unseen army of isolated people. That is a problem with modern conveniences. They are all designed to allow us to interact minimally, if at all with other humans.
You might think about getting out of the house, work with Habitat for Humanity, or Goodwill, or volunteering at the public radio or TV station, or the local elementary school library.
Join a gym, go to the library, anything to get you out of your chair and out of the house.
Get a dog or cat, endless entertainment and companionship. Don't buy into the cultural norm of you have to be part of a couple to be worthy. Tap into your iconoclastic side and enjoy.
As Richard Jeni says, would you rather be alone and LONELY, or part of a couple and ANNOYED?
2006-11-21 19:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sam, Sam, Sam......if you spend alot of time on the computer, you won't make friends or find a girlfriend....develop some other interests that require you to interact with people...take a course, join a health club, join a book club, go to a singles dance....do something where you are bound to meet other people and try to make some friends...no one should always be alone...good luck and take good care of yourself
2006-11-21 19:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now. Your alone because you choose to be alone.
Join some organization where you can meet people.
Go to the library.
Go to a church or synagogue.
Go to a bowling alley.
Go to some sporting event.
Go fishing.
Go OUT.
Your next friend will not be found in your home next to your computer.
2006-11-21 19:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe that is your problem. You're sitting in front of the computer instead of out finding friends. Try it some time. You'd be amazed at how many people will actually like you for who you are.
2006-11-21 19:52:34 · answer #7 · answered by hotredblnd788 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we all feel that way - especially when the holidays are coming. I'm sure that you have people who would be willing to be your friend. Talk to them. Invite them to do something - go for coffee/beer. Go to a worship service or another group that you are interested in and get involved. Good luck.
2006-11-21 19:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by hippieenglishteacher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT YOU NEED TO GET OUT MORE SOCIALIZE WITH PEOPLE THAT YOU USUALLY WOULD'NT ASSOCIATE WITH .IF YOU ARE ON YOUR COMPUTER ALL THE TIME .WHEN DO YOU EVER GET A CHANCE TO GO MEET ANY ONE.MY SUGGESTION TO YOU WOULD BE GET OUT AND ENJOY YOURSELF TO THE FULLEST EVERY ONE DESERVES SOME CONPANIONSHIP.(DONT YOU THINK SO).TRY GOING OUT TO A CHURCH GROUP AA/NA MEETINGS THERE ARE LOTS OF OPPERTUNITY TO FIND A NICE LOVABLE MATE.GOOD LUCK ON FINDING HAPPINESS.YOUSEM TO ME THAT YOU ARE A GOOD HEARTED PERSON TALK WITH SOMEBODY.DEPRESSION IS NOT GOOD EXPECIALLY IF YOU ARE ALONE MOST OF THE TIME.CALL(18002737310) ITS A CRISIS NUMBER YOU CAN CALL ANY TIME OF THE DAY. THEY ARE ALWAYS AVALIBLE.I HOPE I COULD OF BEEN SOME HELP.GOOD LUCK
2006-11-21 20:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Catswoman1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and meet people. go 2 church and find some singles there. That way u will alawayz have someone. God loves u and so do I!
2006-11-21 19:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by 1hotmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋