had my student teachers baby 2 months ago everything was going well until he told me las week our baby sons crying was driving him so went to stay at mates flat two days later he comes back packing his bags telling me he his love with his mate Tony kissing our baby goodbye before leaving me alone & shocked i gave up my family to be with him now ive got know one please help i dont know what to do now he was my rock after a rocky start to motherhood
2006-11-21 11:49:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
VENGEANCE!!! Ruin his career, put sugar in his petrol tank, kick him square in the nuts!
No, seriously, go back to your family. Apply for child support (he may be gay but he can still pay...), and contact your local education authority. This kind of behaviour (getting young girls pregnant, not being gay) just isn't seemly for a teacher....
2006-11-21 20:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by garfet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, make no mistake, a truly homosexual male cannot become aroused around the presence of a woman. Perhaps he's bisexual, but most certainly not gay. Rather he is leaving his responsibilities behind along with you. You need to go back with your family and bare the "I told you so's" as best you can. He is the biological father and needs to pay child support. Ask your family to help you. They won't leave you and the baby stranded. They might be reluctant, but they won't abandon you.
Everything will be alright in time. Right now you need to focus on your baby and nothing else. See to it that the baby gets the help from the father (child support) and you need to renew your relationship with your family. One person cannot raise a baby, but a whole family can. In time you will find a man who will be there for you and the baby. Until then, it's survival time.
2006-11-21 13:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that this has happened to you, I can't imagine what it feels like. What I might do if I were you, is maybe try and talk to your baby's father and ask him to explain what he meant. Like you said, he told you the baby crying was driving him mad, so maybe he is in denial and confused about whether or not he is gay. I can't be sure, but maybe it's worth a try. If he won't or refuses to talk to you then you need to find a way to make him ... after all, yes the baby is yours but it is his too and he should take some damn responsibilty! I hope it works out for you ... perhaps trying to communicate with your parents or family may rekindle your relationship with them ... tell them the situation and that you need support ... I hope it sorts itself out and that both yourself and your baby are ok, good luck petal xxx
2006-11-21 11:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Vicky yeah! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from you being incredibly foolish to sleep with a student - this is a very sad scenario that happen more frequently than people realise my friends brother did this to his girlfriend. The best thing you can do is ensure you have a good relationship with the couple for the sake of your child, I would also suggest contacting your family again - you might worry that they'll gloat but its possible they could rally round in your hour of need.
2006-11-21 11:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Bumblebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things could be the case: 1) he's using the Gay excuse to leave you with no responsibility and hoping you won't be mad at him, you'll just sympathize with him that he's gay and just got the strength to come out. In actuality, he's really straight and just looking for a way out. After all, people believe you when you say your gay. 2) he really IS gay and was too cowardice to say anything, and was soo selfish that he let you give up your family to be with him.
2006-11-21 11:56:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats just terrible news. sorry to hear that.
bloke's like that should be ashamed of themselves, odviously he prob knew he was gay beforehand .. but to make a baby and then run...
worse fool him... well u prob dont want him back... you just need to learn to be a rock for your baby, if the family is out of the question then your going to need to take control of your own life.
if you pick yourself up one more time than you fall then you'll be succeeding through life.
you could always see if there's a helpline in your area to help you out financially, emotionally... something tells me its going to take more than a few words on the net to get you through this...
could be a blessing in discuise.... you could thank you lucky stars in a few years with a beautiful baby (im just guessing but there all cute) .
well hope it helps
2006-11-21 11:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by gavd_ireland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god. really? well i am so osrry for u. but its also a good lesson. when a man leaves you in a flash like that, (being gay doesnt matter) but when he leaves a person for another person, thts too far. there are lots of single moms out there, (my mom is) and you can take care of that baby alone or with anotherman, but not him. if he wants to come back, dont let him. hes not worthy of you! :)
2006-11-21 11:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It needs to be changed whole set up of the society: start you now, think & make others to do so;hope for the best & be prepare for the worst. Trust yourself cause where there is a will there is a way.Good luck!
2006-11-21 15:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by glover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly is tony a guy and are you making this up? well, just move on and if he is that bad give up but dont deny the truth to the baby when she is older
TRUST ME!DONT! im 11
2006-11-21 11:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by charley1995 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be so blunt, but it could be an excuse to get rid of you , or , he really is gay, in which case, your better off without him, forget him , find yourself someone new and " Be Happy " !!!
2006-11-21 12:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋