Why are so many people wanting me to stay in school???

Question

I'm 14. Im droppin out of school in 6 months. Everyone is yelling at me for this saying it will be the worst thing Ive ever done but I think it's the best decision I've ever decided. I have my life planned out. I will have my baby, yes, I am pregnant! That is the reason I have to drop out. My boyfriend will continue school, he's 17 so he's almost done. He has his own apartment cause his parents kick him after they found out he got me pregnant. I am still living with my parents but I am moving in with my boyfriend in a few weeks. People are telling me that my life is screwed up wen I KNOW it's not! I don't think I need to graduate high school cus my boyfriend will & keep me going with his job and help raise the baby. After I have my baby and Im old enough to get a job then I will get one and help support us right now I think my b/f can and we will get help from other programs. Do u think I am doing the right thing by moving in w/ my b/f and dropping outa school 4 the sake of my baby?

Answer 1

No, if you truly were doing it for the sake of your baby you would stay in school and set a good example for the baby. You can't get a job without a diploma or GED, most places won't hire you without that. McDonalds won't even hire you, that is the reality of dropping out. If you boyfriend is going to get a job most likely he won't be able to support you and a baby while paying for all the bills, living on your own is really hard. It's not some fairy tale. How do you know your boyfriend will even stay with you? If he decides to leave you one day you will have no way to support that baby, it's always good to rely on yourself not someone else. You're 14, no offense but you don't know anything about the real world, it's hard you make it sound like it's a fairy tale. It isn't. You aren't dropping out for the sake of your baby, if you cared about your baby you would set a good example for him/her by staying in school and proving that you can do it even with carrying a baby.

Answer 2

1) In Indiana you must be 18 to drop out of school. Are you sure you can drop school without your parents signing for you?

2) Have you talked to anyone who has dropped out of school? Did they tell you that you will never be able to get a job for more than minimum wage unless you have a diploma?

3) Statistics show that people with no high school diploma will earn 30% less than those with a high school diploma. Think about that for your future.

4) If your boyfriend has only a high school diploma, he will probably not be able to earn enough to support the baby and both of you. He will need advanced training to get a better paying job. How will you afford the advanced training?

5) Do you honestly have any idea about the costs of having your own place? You have a ton of bills and rent is not cheap. Who will be mature enough to pay all the bills on time?

6) Will he have insurance through his work? A baby is very expensive. The get sick a lot and doctors want to be paid right away.

7) How long do you think you and your boy friend will stay together? The chances of a teenage couple actually staying together are very small. You could be left with a baby to support in another year, and you would have no education to get a good paying job.

To be quite honest with you, your baby will suffer more with you and your boy friend than it would living at home with your parents. You can always give it up for adoption, but if you want to keep and raise your baby you should stay at home and continue school. That would be doing what was best for the baby.

Answer 3

It's kind of a catch 22. I have 3 kids and I'm only 21. My first when I was 15. But I of course did'nt have the baby. But I think you should at least try to stick it out even though it will be very hard. You could even look into getting your GED. You have to think logical because what are you gonna do if he leaves you, you still have the baby to care for. Right now is a crucial time in your life to make the right decisions. I'm not saying he will leave , but you have to prepare for that anyways. I don't know if you believe in prayer , but if you do pray. Having a baby costs alot of money. There are hospital bills and taking care of all the baby's needs. Believe me it's way more then you could ever imagine.If you don't have an education their is no way you can provide for your child. There are special schools that are for pregnant teens. You could be home schooled. But whatever you do don't give on your education because then your just giving up on your child!!!

Answer 4

I think that you have already done damage to your future by becoming preggers at 14. A child is forever....even after you raise him or her, they move out, you will still feel a sense of responsibility for them. Your parents have had a longer time on this earth and have the ability to see things you can't even begin to imagine. Like, what if you break up? Or, he leaves you.Or the baby has medical problems? Or you lose the baby early in the pregnancy? Then, there you are. No education, no child. No future. The world is an unstable place, no promise of tomorrow. Think about it.

Answer 5

Give the baby up for adoption. You are too young to be having a child. You have no idea how expensive a child is to raise. Go back to school and graduate. Where do you think you are going to get a job at with no diploma? If you listen to one thing I say, listen to this. No, and I mean NO 17 year old guy wants to be stuck raising a baby. I gurantee he will leave you within a year. So, do the baby a favor and give them up for adoption.

Answer 6

Really simple: WORST THING YOU COULD EVER DO. Drop out of school, have a baby at 14, live in an apartment with ur boyfriend 14 and 17??? hahaha...sorry. It would hardly work out for you, ur boyfriend and you baby. Poor baby. Does he deserve to have a live with a mom not even finishing her education???? Man, teachers and parents should really educate kids better than this.

Answer 7

Well, you are going to be a mommy, so you have to look at the big picture. Anything can happen between you and your boyfriend, and you need to be prepared for that. He could have an accident and die leaving you with an apartment that you will not be able to afford on a minimum wage job (which is all you will be able to get WITH a high school diploma...trust me I can't find a good job to save my life because i have nothing beyone my high school diploma). Or he could meet another girl and leave you for her....and file for sole custody since he and the new girl can afford to raise the child now, and you couldn't.....there are so many scenarios - and I've seen them happen. Please reconsider for you and your baby. You have to be strong to be a mother....and teach your baby to make good decisions by being a good role model. I never went to COLLEGE and I have regrets....Just try to finish high school...it will make your son or daughter proud of you one day, and your family and friends proud of you now.....

Answer 8

No because your b/f may not be there for ever an you need an education to get a good job to take care of your baby. Your way to young to want to throw your life way sweet heart . Please reconsider your decisions and do what's best for It's your job to take care of you not your b/f . Remember the only person that will you in the long run is you. So you need to make sure you can support yourself.

Answer 9

ok well i dont mean to be judgemental. but finishing school is very important. at least finish high school if you dont want to continue your education. what happens if the guy leavs you and your kid. how are you going to support yourself. you need to be more independant and not be so dependent on your boyfriend. there arnt many jobs you can get without a high school degree that will support you. you are still young and even if you want to have your kid finish school. you are 14. you are missing out on your youth.
im sorry but a 14 year old cant even take care of herself let alone a child

Answer 10

nicely, my intense college sweetheart and that i dated for 3 and a nil.5 years. We have been engaged for a 12 months and a nil.5, and lived mutually for that long as nicely. He called off the marriage 12 days formerly, then we broke up each week and a nil.5 later. He pronounced he in basic terms wanted to cut up-yet I pronounced "you're the two with me, or with out me." He chosen with out me. This occurred 2 weeks in the past, and that i'm shifting out of the condo we waited a 12 months to get into. i presumed we've been soulmates-yet i assume he wasn't happy. If the two human beings love one yet another sufficient, they are in a position to make it by way of. besides the undeniable fact that it particularly is extra good once you recognize you're able to take a bullet for the guy...that's conserving the gun.