my ex recently found out i have a boyfriend and has sent me a threatening email that I am really worried about because it's full of hate and seems like he wants to hurt me (which wouldn't be a new thing)
quote: "If you think you have had it bad before, ... just w8"
What should I do?? I'm really scared!
2006-11-21 11:17:58 · 32 answers · asked by tasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Speaking from previous experience, call the police, but DON'T GET YOUR HOPES UP! My ex threatened to slice my throat and stand over me, smiling, while I bled to death. The police filled out a report and did absolutley nothing else. I just had to prove to my ex that I was not scared and I moved on with my life. We get along now, of course we also have a 10 year old son together. It just takes some longer to grow up.
2006-11-21 11:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by 5yung1s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get back your ex is https://tr.im/JAss7
Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.
Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.
She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!
Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...
She will be hurt and you will be happy!
2016-07-19 21:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS A PI, DO ME A FAVOR, HAVE A PLAN B AVAILABLE. MAKE A RECORD OF TIMES AND DATES AND A LOG OF ALL EMAILS. IF HE CALLS, SEND IT TO ANSWER MACHINE AND LET YOUR CELL GO TO VOICEMAIL. CALL THE POLICE AND REPORT THE THREATS. YOU KNOW BY CLICHE THAT RESTRAINING ORDERS DON'T ALWAYS WORK. MOVING MAY BE AN OPTION AND SHUTTING DOWN YOUR EMAIL AND WEB SYSTEM MAY WORK. LIKE A NEW IP AND EMAIL ADDRESS. HAVE SOME MONEY PUT AWAY AND HAVE A SAFE PLACE TO GO IF SOMETHING HAPPENS AND ALSO NEVER NEVER GO ANYWHERE ALONE AND IF YOU HAVE TO ALWAYS KEEP YOUR CELL ON GPS TRACKING MODE AND LET SOMEONE KNOW WHERE YOU'LL BE GOING AND WHERE AND HOW LONG IT WILL TAKE TO GET THERE. HAVING POEPLE STAY WITH YOU MAY OR MAY NOT HELP- BECAUSE YOU MAY SUBJECT THEM TO VIOLENCE- IT S UP TO YOU SO DO WHAT YOU THINK IS BEST AND CHANGE YOUR APPEARANCE TOO IT MAY HELP. BEST OF LUCK. MEXXXI
2006-11-21 15:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This e-mail should be printed out and taken to the police. After that, listen to them about what to do about a restraining order for him. You need it.
Further suggestions:
1. If you haven't, you need to change the locks on your house. 2. Park your car only in a public spot when you go places and ALWAYS check the back seat and floor of the car before you get in.
3. KEEP YOUR DOORS LOCKED!
4. Go places with a friend.
5. Change your screen name on the computer.
6. Do not see mutual friends. Do not talk about your ex with them, either.
7. Do not give him any reaction one way or another and from this point forward do not answer his telephone calls or his e-mails. The less reaction he gets from you, the sooner he will leave you alone.
Good luck, Dear.
2006-11-21 11:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Make a copy of your email and give it to them. Document every time he communicates with you, even if he's friendly. Write down what happens in a journal and date it.
Also, get a restraining order. If he violates that, that's one more thing to document. Call the police EVERY TIME he does something that makes you scared for your safety.
If you end up going to court to have his loony butt put away, the court can see from your journal that he has a pattern of harassment.
Call the police now. Get off the computer, call the police, and while they are on the way, make a print-out of his email to you.
2006-11-21 11:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/WQ7MW
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-27 01:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell everyone, especially common friends, get with the police, make sure everybody sees the email. Get your restraining order, but stay close to good friends until he calms down. Abusers won't abuse you in front of people who can challenge them.
By sharing the email with your common friends, he will most likely shy away from the pressure he'll recieve, but stay close to friends or family at all times.
2006-11-21 11:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely call the cops and get a restraining order. Show them the email message sent to you and any others. Be safe!
2006-11-21 11:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by KatheeVonE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use your head! He may have just given you the best Christmas gift you could want. Take that email to the police. He'll leave you alone I promise.
2006-11-21 11:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the court house for a restraining order.
2006-11-21 12:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by mothersister_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋