I am married guy and i love my wife very much. We are into happy relationship over last 4 years and she satisfies my every need. We talk about every aspect freely but i have one thing which i cant share with her. I am attracted to more ladies infact i am getting some chances to involve in physical relationships with 2 of my new friends, I love erotic or cyber chats, visiting some porn site.
I think if i tell my wife about that i may land in big trouble. On the other hand i think i shall leave my affairs but i hate to say i cant coz i love their company too.
so guide me what to do?
2006-11-21 10:53:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're married bro. You already know the answer. If there's something your wife can do to spice up your sex life then tell her. If there's something you can do together, try that. Messing around with other girls is only going to screw things up. She's gonna find out, and if that happens she's gonna dump you.
Is it worth banging some broads you don't love? It's gonna end up losing you the most important person in your life.
Again. Think about it for like, 10 seconds. You know the right thing to do. Don't screw around. If you wanna be with other women then leave your wife. She hasn't done anything to deserve that pain.
2006-11-21 10:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by sharky 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it in the first words... "I am married and I love my wife". Do you really need people herer at YA to tell you what you already know. You are betraying your wife and you will get caught... it''s just a matter of time. Being attracted to others is normal, but it doesn't mean you should act on it.
The cyber sex chats, porn site is something that is being consider an addiction in our society. There is treatment out there for this problem and I suggest you consider seeking treatment. It's all up to you. We'll soon be hearing from you asking "My wife has left me, how can I get her back?
2006-11-21 11:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, "bad" boy...
A. You are married. You took vows before God and made Him a party to those vows. Now you want to ignore those vows. Bad move.
B. Physical relationships have absolutely NO long term value and do not bring you any benefit except a fleeting one - they don't last.
C. Your new "friends" are not worth much as people if they are coming on to a married man.
D. There is no "may" land in big trouble. You will definitely land in big trouble...and you should. You definitely will not be "trading up" to wind up with women like those you describe.
E. You are one selfish person. What about how this will affect your wife? While you are making up your mind about what to do, DO NOT get your wife pregnant. She deserves better than you.
2006-11-21 11:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are married and took vows, Respect Marriage AND your Wife, u have to give up your "other affairs".
no if's, ands or butts! =T sorry man, but u promised to love, honor, respect her. lying to her, or cheating behind her back w/ cyber chats is messed up.. if u are a TRUE MAN, and want to be a GOOD HUSBAND, u will do what u can to control those desires. whether it be by joining some clubs, or sending sexy emails to your Wife, whatever u need to do to take ur mind off of OTHER people.
if u can't, and u want the cyber people more, than do ur wife a favor and divorce her so she can find someone who is completely Satisfied by her loveliness~
2006-11-21 11:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide if your attractions are worth the trouble they could get you into. Think of what it would be like to go through a nasty divorce with your wife, and compare that to the pleasure you'd get from acting on these other attractions. The choice should be simple.
2006-11-21 10:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Chris D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yes most deffently if you tell your wife this it very well could in up with a dervorce which seems to me that you would not want you need to man up and end the affairs cause you having makes you a lieing and untrustworthy and unloyal man you married because you love here and only want her if you wanted otthers then you should have NEVER said i do.....sorry it was kinda harsh but i was thinkin you wanted the truth so i gave you the truth goodluck
2006-11-21 11:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by chelsae c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your about to loose your marriage. You have a lust problem. Porn and extra marital affairs does nothing but hurt the persons involved. Porn is not good for you. You need Jesus in your heart. You need a counselor. Please don't lose the good things in your life for something that will hurt you.
2006-11-21 11:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are always going to be attracted to someone else, that is part of being human. It is not that hard to look, but don't touch. This is called being an adult.
You already know what is right, don't get involved with anyone else or you could end up losing her and rightfully so. So get control of yourself and grow up.
2006-11-21 10:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should love your wife enough to leave all that mess behind. she should be the one satisfying you in every way. i really like you need to reevaluate what is more important in this situation... Your hornyness or your wifes feelings... or maybe even your marriage????
2006-11-21 11:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋