my bf has been really ill for the past week . i have been trying to as supportive as i can ... so i wouldn't mind coming to his house every day to spend a bit of time with him. however i call him and it seems that every time i have to initiate this. So i go to see him every other day. and it makes me feel weird because if i were ill i would love to have someone coming to see me every day. he always apologizes for being ill and not much fun at the moment.
i don't want to be pushy and i do understand that he's so ill that he doesn't want to talk or pay that much of attention to me .
but i don't mind that he is like that... shall i keep giving him lots of attention or give him a little more space at the moment????
also i start to freak myself out that as we don't have sex he's not that driven to see me ... which is a quite insecure but here we go.
2006-11-21 10:22:22 · 10 answers · asked by petr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him what he wants...we dont know!....;
2006-11-21 10:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by huggz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly sick, then you should already know that when you are sick you feel like UGH and you just don't care bc you are so miserable.....he isn't trying to hurt your feelings he is just in a state of mind where he's been miserable in a sick way for too long and can care less about everything else bc he feels so shhitty...not to sound bad, but thats how i feel, and desperate to feel better. I don't like to be bothered i just want to sleep through it all or not feel bad.
2006-11-21 10:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by harmonieclark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one including myself wants to be seen when they are sick so here is an idea let him get better that way you don't get what he has and you two can go back to doing each other when you both feel better so let him get better I know you miss your BF but let him get better the more rest he gets the sooner he will feel well again and he will want to be with you
2006-11-21 10:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a bit of space while he's sick - men are different to woman in that they like to be left to be ill in peace xx
2006-11-21 10:26:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you are sick you dont want to be overwhelmed with the help of others, sometimes you just dont feel like talking to or seeing anyone else. back off a little. if he needs you, he will call you, you've done what you could to help him. take care.
2006-11-21 10:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More Space
2006-11-21 10:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by stanley f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he enjoys you're visits, or if you should back off a little. Make sure it's clear to him that you don't mind if he chooses the latter.....
2006-11-21 10:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your doing fine... when im sick, my g/f comes and spends time with me... im really not all that thrilled about having visiters, but she's sweet and beautiful, and it cheers me up when she's there... and i feel like i get better, cuz i have her. I kno its corny, but its tru... she's amazing, and im sure he feels the same way about u.
2006-11-21 10:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by gotta_have_hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he's feeling up to it, talk to him about how you feel. honestly in my opinion i think you are doing a good thing. most people like to have visitors when they are sick. so...unless he says otherwise, keep visiting him. is there anyone else who would be going to see him/help him if you weren't??
2006-11-21 10:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, you should do for him as you would want him to do for you .. this is how you communicate your needs ... go see him and take care of him every day if thats what you would want... if he doesn't want you there, he will tell you not to come.
2006-11-24 14:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋