what does being a compulsive crusher (one who obsesses over a hottie) mean? Does it mean that i have issues?

Question

serious responses only. I'd really like to know about the psychology behind the "crush"

i just got out of a serious 1.5 year relationship. plus i cannot pursue this one cause where i work, relationships between employees is not allowed.

Answer 1

Doesn't mean anything. There aren't that many
' hotties ' around. Curious term. Sounds recycled. Unimaginative. Like what someone who will one day cultivate a beer belly would be expected to say and usually fares abysmally in matters of the heart. So too with the term
' crusher ' which is likewise a none too imaginative variant on the term ' masher ' circa U.S. 1920's - 30's. My general view of such persons is not unlike a Eunuch in a Harem. He's got a first hand idea how things are done, but is somewhat at a loss to self effectuate. A crush is an unreasoning absorption with a member of the opposite sex. It crushes the crushee and doesn't do too much for the object of the crush either.

Answer 2

Some people never get over their first love. In fact, a new study shows that your first romantic break-up--even if it took place back in high school--may trigger lifelong depression.

Sufferers of recurring bouts of depression, or major depressive disorder (MDD), can often trace the onset of their blues to a stressful life event that occurred shortly before the first episode hit. Scott Monroe, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at the University of Oregon, has discovered that for people whose depression struck during adolescence, the end of a romantic relationship tended to be that traumatic life event.

Monroe rated the depressive symptoms of close to 1,500 teenagers, then surveyed them about major life events that they had experienced in the past year, including a break-up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. Of the teens that were clinically depressed or had been clinically depressed in the past, a whopping 46% reported splitting up with a partner during the year before their first bout of the blues.

Of course, his finding may not be as dramatic as it seems. Break-ups and make-ups are perfectly normal events in a teen's life, Monroe emphasizes in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, and do not trigger depression in everyone. He believes that some people may have a predetermined vulnerability to romantic ups and downs--and to low spirits during those down periods. Still, being in love is far too rewarding for anyone to avoid romantic relationships, simply to skirt a case of the blues.

Answer 3

Nothing wrong with that at all. If you just got out of a long relationship, it's understandable that you're looking around! Lots of people do that. It's only a problem if you are still IN a relationship and still obsessively looking at other people.

Answer 4

so, you seen this fine dude walking down the street and the moment you see him girl he's fine!!! You can't take your eye's off of him everywhere you see him you freaks out. That's a compulsive crusher.No, you don't have issues you just seen an incredible man that you like and you can't keep your eye's off of him.

Answer 5

no you dont have a problem it just means you are infatuated with that persons whats wrong with infatuation.

Answer 6

You lack experience. A few dozen more trips around the block, you will apreciate from afar, but say no thanks.

Answer 7

it means you'll never be completely satisfied in any relationship because you'll always be looking.

Answer 8

it means you want to do them but do them at random

Answer 9

I would say no idea,.