I have an unusual situation. My husband and I are expecting our first child together (he and the ex have three). His ex wife and I get along very well, and she recently told me she considers me a friend. She has also told me that she wants to buy me gifts for our new baby and is free to babysit anytime. She seems very happy for us. My question is should I invite her to my baby shower or would that be pushing our friendship to a level that is not acceptable?
2006-11-21 10:00:40 · 28 answers · asked by melody g 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should call and say "You know, I've been thinking- I'd love to have you at the shower, but I don't want to push our friendship or make you feel awkward. I'd love for you to come, but if you'd rather not, I understand." Friends talk things over honestly. Give her that much respect.
2006-11-21 10:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am in a similiar situation with my husband, but he only has one with her. I didn't invite her to my first baby shower because we didn't get along at all. We just threw my stepson a birthday party together and as well as we get along, it was still awkward. My advice to you is to ask her if she would like to come and let her know that you have no problem with her being there but that you wanted to make sure that she wouldn't feel awkward with his mother and family. This is always a question...so if the two of you get along as well as you say you do, then this is what I would do. My husbands ex wife and my in laws
don't exactly care to get along.
Good Luck!
2006-11-21 10:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sheila M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's friendly towards you and you two seem to get along fine, there's nothing wrong with inviting her. Its a bit of a weird situation being that she's your husband's ex but, this is no normal world we live in. If you are the one uncomfortable with it then it might be an issue but, its your choice. You don't have to invite her if you don't want to.
2006-11-21 10:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by irishgypsy88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not an alien. She is human. And it is wonderful that you have a genuine friendship. It would be in poor taste to admit that you care about this woman as a friend and then deny her the priviledge of coming to your shower.
What is not acceptable would be to exclude her from your shower.
Congratulations on your new arrival. It will be a great day! Enjoy!
2006-11-21 10:06:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the stepmother to her children. It is great when families can get along and appreciate each other. If you are comfortable with her there, then yes, invite her. She is just one of many well wishers and you can never have enough! Enjoy your shower and include her, and know that you are being a very thoughtful person.
2006-11-21 10:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Smilingcheek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband first, then if thinks that it ok, then invite her. Because he would know her, a little better than you would. Ask her for advice about the baby shower that can also tell you how she feels too.
2006-11-21 10:08:26 · answer #6 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These situations are few and far between but they do exist. I say go for it invite her .She has reached out and extended an olive branch and if there seems to be no hard feelings between either parties than continue on. Happy Baby!!
2006-11-21 10:04:49 · answer #7 · answered by HummerBabemv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very good friends with my ex-husbands new wife. She invites me to their cookouts even allows me to ride the motorcycle with him on poker runs LOL. We both have children by him and we all get along great. Sure invite her. He has no intentions toward me and I have none toward him. We are just friends now as you are saying you are so I see nothing wrong with inviting her..if your husband doesn't have a problem with it. Talk it over with him to make sure.
2006-11-21 10:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by Satin Sheets 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your close friend as you describe her...then yes do invite her, she would love the thought that you invited her. To not invite her would, make her hurt, feel left out, that you didnt want her there. All friends want the best for eachother, she will be so happy for you.
2006-11-21 10:04:13 · answer #9 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to invite her? Maybe you should just have a conversation with her about it, before the shower? Based on that, invite her or not.
2006-11-21 10:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋