ever since shes been dating this one guy it seems like she would rather be with him?? help what should i do
2006-11-21 09:58:58 · 22 answers · asked by raelynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know I've been in this same situation. It's really hard to deal with if you guys are so close. I just let my friend be and went to hang out with other people. I would call her and invite her places but she always turned me down because she had already made plans with her new man. This went on for about three months. When she called one day I told her. I'm not mad at you anymore but I would like for you to know that what you did really hurt me. We had been friends for five years and this guy comes and now you act like I don't exist. She apologized and we started hanging out again. Some people just get caught up in situations and forget about the feelings of others. You just have to put yourself in her shoes. If you were in a new relationship you might do the same thing to her. It's something new and right at this time you're just caught up in it. As long as you talk to her and tell her how you feel about it she should make it a point to try and share her time between the two of you. If she just blows you off then she wasn't a good friend to begin with and you'd be better off finding someone who cares about you and what your feelings are. Good luck with it. I hope she comes around.
2006-11-21 10:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by hotredblnd788 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people are in your situation. It is most common. I had the same problem. I would talk to her and tell her how you feel. My friend acted really different and never had time for me she was always hanging with him. Finally I got the nerve to talk to her and things have been good ever since
2006-11-21 10:01:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
while you are worried about him, he is worried about you too... maybe he is purposly keeping her away from you.... eventually the romance & honeymoon will play out and she will need someone to turn to. It sounds like she means more to you than just a friend....so continue to be her friend, be there for her but move on with your life and find some else to replace her temporarily.....that is if you really dont want to lose her from your life. Other than that dont worry, everything happens for a reason. Maybe fait has a better girl for you but she was in the way. so she had to find love first....
2006-11-21 10:15:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course she is - it's her new hobby. Tell her honestly how you feel in a nice manner and let her know that you will always be her friend no matter what and that you will always support her. If your friendship means that much to you - then let her do her thing and be there when she needs you - she will understand this and will be grateful in the long run - believe me. How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot????
2006-11-21 10:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by ripbeavis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you not the only one. She doesn't realize she is doing it. When you have a boyfriend, you want to spend all your time with them. I have a best friend, I only see her maybe once every other week. Things change, life gets busy. She is not intentionally trying to hurt you, she is just giddy about this guy of hers. All you can do is be there for her, because when they break up, who do you think she'll come crying to?
2006-11-21 10:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a boyfriend. so she's going to feel like some part of her has been awakened because she really likes him. she might feel so strongly about him that she thinks she loves him and just adores being near him. talk to her -you need to make it clear that you feel like she's picking him over you. you guys are girlfriends; and you cant break that sisterly bond over unspoken words. make it clear to her exactly how you feel, and make sure that your not telling her you don't like him, but you feel left out sometimes and you guys dont hang out. you should be talking to your friend instead of asking us yahoo users what to do !
ps, let me know if this information was helpful !!!!!!!
2006-11-21 10:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Charmed_FanForever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from a guys standpoint, when I start dating a girl I act a little different to with my freinds. Luckily my freinds bring it to my attention every time, maybe try to talk. good luck
2006-11-21 10:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three suggestions.
1. Talk to her about it.
2. Get another girlfriend.
3. Get a fab boy of your own.
2006-11-21 10:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Daydreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome aboard!! We all go through that I've done it ...my friends have done it to me...ur friends are now doing it to you and chances are u will do it to ur friens too...that's life...u just need to have back up friends!! It sounds like ur really young so don't worry ur friend will come back..ur not losing her!! she'll return when she is over this guy...if she gets married then it's a different story!! But don't worry we all go through that...so start getting used to it!!
2006-11-21 11:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by babygirlxx68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably wants to be close to the new guy, even though it's unfair to you if she isn't spending time with you. Confront her and tell her how you feel. When girls get boyfriends, it's like they forget about you, and it won't change unless you talk to her!
2006-11-21 10:03:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋