I have read so many questions on here of women who say they have no sex drive even before they got married. Why would you get married if you dont want to have sex?? whats the point??? what can you get from a husband that you cant get from friends if you are not intrested in sex???
2006-11-21 09:39:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What women are you talking about, cause I'm certainly not one of those women. And to answer your question: What can you get from a husband that you can't get from friends? How about commitment?
2006-11-21 09:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I didn't marry my husband for sex. Lord knows that sex only lasts so long in a relationship before it can start to fizzle out. I love my husband with all my heart and no matter what physical attractions there are, there are many more personality attractions. He is someone I can share my deepest fears and thoughts with and not fear getting ridiculed. I can count on him in any situation that we are in to help me through it. Marriage isn't about sex in any way, shape or form. It is icing on the cake and that is about it. I have great sex life by the way, but that is not my entire relationship with my husband. I get so much from my husband that my friends could not provide and also friends are not lovers and lovers are not friends. You can have a lover and not a relationship. Lust doesn't equal love and you shouldn't get married if you aren't ready to handle every aspect a relationship involves. I think that some women realize that sex is overrated in society and that people think sex is so great and in reality, it isn't a big part of married life as some people unfortunately think it is.
2006-11-21 09:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by carmadsmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good point, BUT! Friends are great, but there is just something about being in love with someone even if the "sex" has drifted. That is love. You just have that relationship, that you share with no one else. I would never wipe my friends butt if he or she were sick and could not. I might foot the bill for a nurse. But my love for a person, that togetherness, that bond that only the two of you understand, that will get you through illness, and you will overlook poverty, and you might even wipe that ***!
2006-11-21 10:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by smokalot70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do realize that there is a whole lot more to marriage than sex don't you?
You know, the whole building a life together, being a family, supporting and loving each other through joys and sorrows...ringing any bells?
Yes, I think intimacy in marriage is important, but that's not even close to all there is to a marriage.
2006-11-21 10:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... People don't marry for sex. I could get sex anytime I wanted when I was single, I didn't need to get married for that. I got married because I enjoy my husband's company, and want to stay with him long-term and have a family.
2006-11-21 09:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that along with loving someone so much you figure he won't make a big deal about the sex because he loves you too, you optimistically think it may improve. I think you find more people whose drives change after marriage than before. Are you saying people aren't entitled to spend their lives with one person they love because they don't want to have sex every day?
2006-11-21 11:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some possible reasons
-- 'get out of the house' if they still live with their parents.
-- for the financial security of two incomes
--because they are in love with the man (this has nothing to do with sex)
--because they are lonely and don't want to grow old alone
--to avoid the social stigma of 'not having a husband'
--to have children with two parents
--to get their parents off their back "when are you going to meet a nice boy, etc, etc?'
--because they've been dating a guy for multiple years and 'it's just what you do next'
2006-11-21 09:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by corkyhorse 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've got been that lady and that i've got been the single cheated on via a dishonest husband, so i'm able to tackle this from the two ends. On what foundation would you sue, and why now not the companion additionally?
2016-12-17 14:07:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What women get in marriage is the opportunity to "free load" for a while.
2006-11-21 10:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
security and finances
2006-11-21 09:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness01201 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋