I have a fulltime job,we have a 9 month old baby,he takes care of him during the day,by the time I go homeat 5 he goes to his friend's house and come back at 10 PM. He does not pay any bills in the house,besides baby's formula? we do the chores equally
2006-11-21 09:36:46 · 21 answers · asked by zcliffton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we dont really get along .he is from another culture. I was not brought up that women does support the family altough, I am in the 80K income, i took the the task since he cant find anything comparable to what i get.Thanks
2006-11-21 09:57:42 · update #1
The part that I don't like is he goes to his friend's house from 5 to 10pm. That is the bad part. I suggest you consider divorcing him. He is acting like he is your other child and dependent on your support. It's like he is babysitting his brother. You are his mother.
2006-11-21 23:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well depending on what skills he has and what type of job he could get. Daycare can be costly. Does he take good care of the baby? It is probably tough on him, but I dont think he needs to go every night to a friends house. I know when my husband is off work and takes our little guy after 2 or 3 days he is wiped! I would talk to him and see if he can cut back on the evening visits. You are missing on couple time too when he does that. If he is not working, you can't expect him to pay bills. Sounds like you two need to have a serious heart to heart.
2006-11-21 09:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by his temptress 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you like the way your life is going then dont divorce him. Personally I think men should take care of the woman and the kids. I mean its genetic. When you have kids you dont automatically have childcare too. No one raises children better than thier moms (Unless they are addicts, etc.)
I also think the woman should get out and get a job if she feels the man doesnt make enough money.
But a man that expects you to work all day and come home and still do half of the chores then he leaves and hangs out with the boys till 10- I can tell you you wont like him after another few months of that.
2006-11-21 09:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by jeweledfruit 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's a freeloader! You need to put a stop to this immediately. It isn't fair that you make the money and he gets to go out with his friends while you are home with baby. He should be home with you so you can enjoy your child together and you BOTH can take care of it at the same time. And he should give you a night off once in a while if you want to go hang out with your friends. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel and if he has a bad reaction, give him some time to see if he comes around, and if not....well...divorce him and get someone who treats you well!
2006-11-21 09:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see much of a difference between what he does staying home as a dad, and what I do staying home as a mom. I don't tend to stay out all night every night though because my husband realizes the stress that staying home causes and lets me have alone time without nagging me. Maybe, you and your husband need to go out together more, have a date night (even if it's only once a month) and let him know how much you appreciate him staying home.
I don't know (unless there are details missing) why you would even bring up divorce......I mean if my husband wanted to divorce me for being a stay at home mom, just about everyone would say he was a jerk.
2006-11-21 09:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by smunkeemom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not see why he could not get a second shift job, or even a 3rd shift job..
Its what me and my guy do to make cash..we work opposite shifts, still get a few hours together, and no need to worry about someone else as a childcare provider..
Give him a Ultimatum to get a job within the next month and if he does not, kick him to the curb...If he is not out putting applications in the day afer Thanksgiving, let him know he has less than a month, 2 weeks...
2006-11-21 09:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as the bills are paid, and he's watching the baby while you work, that's fine. But why does he leave you alone all evening? Are you married or not? That's what would irritate me. That and the chores, since he doesn't work he should do the household chores. do you ever spend time together?
2006-11-21 09:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has time to go to his friend's house then he has time to look for a job. Buying baby formula and helping out with chores doesn't cut it. Tell him to get a job or go live with his friend.
2006-11-21 10:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is watching your son, while you are working, he has a job. Give him a break, how would you feel if you stayed home with the baby all day and your husband came home and complained and told you to go get a job? You don't realize how lucky a woman your are.
2006-11-21 09:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Tristen T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he cheat,or drink, or beat you? I hope not.
Does he do laundry, and cook, a house Hubby?
If so, I would keep him. He is working if he keeps
your child, and the home picked up. Does he Shop to?
You are Lucky, he's not a Bum, or he wouldn't
keep your child, or help you in the house.
Sit down and talk about it.
He needs alittle spending money to.
2006-11-21 09:58:51 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋