i am divorced and have 2 children( 19&17) the other day my ex sent a text message to the 17 who had no knowledge of his fathers phone number and asked who had written the text. a fight prevailed between the two of them and my ex told my son that from here on out in life he is dead to him and that he can not have any communication with the rest of the family that is still in the area. I have not spoke to my ex in a few years because of some things that have been said to my children by him or one of the many girlfriends he has had. he does not live near us and has very little or no communication with either of my children in the last 3 years. any sugguestions on what to do to help my 17 get past this.
2006-11-21 09:25:48 · 7 answers · asked by sandi j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to Christian church. Get some Godly counselling from the pastor.(it is free) He can also pray over you & your son. Prayer is very powerful.
Many churches also have teenage programs which are real positive and fun which would bring lots of Peace, love and confidence to your son.
I pray the best.
God Bless!
2006-11-21 09:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would disagree with any of those who have: Told you to go pray, Bad mouth your husband to your son...The guy is still his father.
Comfort your son by saying such things as,"I'm sorry this happened" Maybe it was a mis-understanding, It really doesn't directly affect your life, no matter what he does.... you're almost an adult..." further, you son can do nothing anyway... if you son even tried to figure out what made your ex say those things, it would fall under the category of "irrational behavior".... it makes no sense, so it wouldn't really work for your son to try to figure out why his dad would say such a thing, particularly after all these years. Your best option is to just make light of it, since there is nothing you can do anyway....You son will figure it out himself, that your ex is something of a nut case....everyone has several in the family...
2006-11-21 10:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you let your son know that he is not to blame. If his father has not been in the picture anyway, why is he contacting your son now? He wants to shift the blame from himself to your son. Tell your son he is better off without his father in his life if he is being treated this way. This will show him how not to treat any children he may have in future. Make sure you are there when your son needs to talk. Let him know he can count on you.
2006-11-21 09:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just has to let it go. Does he have any hobbies he's into maybe an x-box 360 and gears of war? Try his hobbies.
2006-11-21 09:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get your son to get on with his life.Tell him to focus on his immediate household and his own future.Dont say anything about father, forget about him.
2006-11-21 09:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by siaosi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure hes used to it by now ...
2006-11-21 09:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a gun.................. just kidding
2006-11-21 09:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by sublimelvr1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋