I know god forgives me but i am so angry with my past and i want to move on to be a pastor because of my experiences i see a counselor she treats me like i am stupid.
2006-11-21 09:24:31 · 7 answers · asked by melony f 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You have to accept yourself for who you are and what you have become. Accept your past and value the lessons you have learned.
2006-11-21 09:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by pilljills 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree you need a new councilor. Their job is not to make you feel worse.
Next you need to realize that maybe God let you have those experiences just so you could help others. You can council others from experience, what you went through, the difficulties, and how you struggled to get your life back on track. I think you could be the best thing for a person who is lost, and is in trouble. So, just remember that you have that past for a good reason...you're future.
Now, that you know why you have such a background, you can forgive yourself. Knowing you can be the helping hand someone in need is searching for.
2006-11-21 09:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Stephie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please discontinue treatment with this counselor and get another one. I had been a therapist - and she/he should treat you with respect, but also guide you and highlight things that should be worked on.
Have you considered doing what alcoholics do when in recovery - related to the 12 steps? Think about "My Name is Earl" the television show. If you can make amends for your past errors (apologize formally, try to make things right again, etc) you may find peace and be able to move on. Remember that we are all human and all of us make mistakes and show poor judgement. We must, however, try to move past our past - and try not to repeat our errors in the future. Would you forgive others for doing the same things you feel you are guilty for? Isn't it sad that for some of us it is easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves.
My parents would have answered your question by saying "go to confession" (we were raised Catholic). Having another person hear us talk about our "secrets" or issues is sometimes healing. That is why people go to counselors - to disclose in an atmosphere of respect and to find new and different ways of interpreting and responding to experiences.
2006-11-21 09:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by carol mc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, get a new counselor if she's saying things that are mean or unreasonable. Second you can't worry about your past because it's over and done. Move up and on because you're better than the person you used to be.
2006-11-21 09:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by skweekey01 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regretting the past is a great way to give your power away. Just know you can do better in this moment.
Pray for God to take away your regrett.
"My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." I will all the more gladly boast of my weaknesses, that the power of the Christ may rest upon me." 2 Corinthians 12:9
2006-11-21 09:33:27 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read the Tao Teh King.
2006-11-21 09:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Melony I can help you.I provide free Christian counseling over the internet and I don't treat people like they are stupid.Contact me if you'd like my assistance.
2006-11-21 12:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by DrDeanCrosby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋