what does it mean if your husband works all day and night and only comes home when you;re leaving?

Question

I don't know what to think but I know he can't be working that many hours. I suspect he's playing on the computer looking at porn. I know he's busy. I also found out that he's been taking my diet pills to give him energy to stay awake. They do keep u awake. I haven't been able to sleep. Anyway I am currently in a pregrad program and I study all the time so I don't have time to see my husband durign the week. On weekends he;s sleeping. What can I do? Help

Answer 1

You need to put aside the time to meet up with him and discuss it all with him. It's possible you both need to make some lifestyle changes to make this work. His paystubs will reveal the number of hours he's worked. It should match up to the time he is away. Unfortunately, I think you both need to set time aside for counseling. You have no time for him because of your schedule and now he has no time for you and you don't like it. You both need to put the brakes on here and decide your futures. This isn't a life and your statements prove that you're not happy. First thing you need to do for both your sakes is dump all the diet pills down the toilet. Neither of you need them. Put your health and the health of your relationship first. He might not need online porn if he had you around a little more often. Both sides need to give up some activities to make time for each other. Run, don't walk to counseling.

Answer 2

My uneducated guess is that he is cheating in one way or another. Maybe you should ask him. You will get a lot of opinions here, but no truths. Communication is the key to a successful relationship, is that what you want?
Good Luck!

Answer 3

Both of you need to take stock of your marriage and come to an arrangement where you get more time to be together.

Answer 4

I think you need to sit down and have a long talk with him. Tell him how you feel and what your needs are. Good Luck