What is the best way to forgive and forget?

Question

Do you know a way for someone to forgive and forget a friend who has betrayed your trust? Easier said than done I guess?

Answer 1

Forgiving isn't making the other person better, its making yourself better. Forgiving someone comes from inside yourself. Forgiving doesn't mean that you don't learn a lesson and let that person continue to hurt or use you.
The way I do it is when I think about why that person that hurt me is what lesson I learned from it , what I can do to prevent getting hurt or used in the future, knowing that it is now in the past and then moving on to the rest of my life which, what is ahead of me is more important than what is behind me. :-)

Answer 2

I think the answer lies within yourself, how badly were you hurt by the betrayed trust? How badly do you want to remain friends? When you have come to terms with that then forgiving is easy. Forgetting not so easy but the incident can be pushed away so the friendship remains after trust has been rebuilt/

Answer 3

Forgiveness is about a decision ...not a feeling .. I heard a story about a young Jewish girl and her sister being in a concetration camp and they undressed all of the women and paraded them in front of the German officers. She could remember the sniding smiles and whistles that these officers gave her. She remebered one officer who looked at her and her sister like a piece of meat. He was the one that really embarassed all the women. Her sister died and the Americans came and took her away. She later gave her testimony about the concentration camp and many gave their heart to Jesus Christ and learened that they too can forgive. While she was giving one of her sermons she saw the German officer. He probably didn't remeber her but she defintely remebered him becasue all of this anger came back to her. She knew she had to forgive but she hated the man so much. So she asked the Lord , let your love flow through me. She went up to the man and with the decison in her heart to forgive (not a feeling) she reached out to shake the man's hand. As soon as they touched she felt love surging through herself and she had compassion for the man. Forgiveness has to be followed by an action. It could be going up to the person and saying I forgive you or it could just be writing down that you forgave that person. Hope this helped.

Answer 4

I know I just can't trust anyone who betrayed me, can't never forgive or forget, I wish he would die a horrible death for hurting childern, that is all he deserve, he is the scum of the earth.

Answer 5

Yes... I think it's easier to get over someone killing that friend then that friend betraying you.
Realize you don't give a da*n. You realy don't care anymore. Obviously that person dosen't care about you. Why care about them? It realy depends what kind of relationship you had with that person though. Think about it...

Answer 6

I think the best answer is to give it time. If your friend is really a friend, he or she will earn back your trust in time. If not, now you know better than to confide in them.

Answer 7

forgive yes but i don,t believe in forget once bitten twice shy
but one as to move on

Answer 8

well I'm assuming it wasn't personal so just think of it as such. Just "Fogettaboutit" and shake it off! your too good to hold grudges.

Answer 9

Try praying for the other person over a period of time. Just their well being and happiness.

Answer 10

when you find a good answer can you let me know and e-mail me i have a lot of that to do.