OK. I have a friend who pisses me off!!!!.......................... ?

Question

This person and I have been friends for a couple of years. I have a 6 year old and she has two children aged 6 and 8. The 6 year old has always been nice to my son but the 8 year old is a bully!!!! My son is incredibly kind hearted and does not fight this child back. I have talked with her nicely without attacking. She seems not to even care. Lately, it also seems that she is in competition with me about whose child looks better, whose child has the better toys and so on and so forth. Last week, it was my sons birthday. We got him a hair cut and bought him a new bike. Well, we all live in the same apt. complex so the kids see each other all the time. The boys were jealous of my sons bike. The next day they had new hair cuts and a brand new "better" bike than my son. I don't really care, the thing is that they came straight over to my apt it seems just to show off. And this is not the only thing. It just seems like now we are competing. I really do not understand what

happened to this friendship to make it go this way.

I don't care if she is trying to out do me. I just care for this person and I am confused as to why this relationship took such a wrong turn.

There are a few of you that have been kinda judgemental.

Answer 1

It sounds as if this lady is very immature. I wouldn't worry about what she thinks or if she's trying to be better...let her spend $ and flaunt. This shows what kind of person and mother she is. I wouldn't let my kid hang around hers anymore. Especially if the boy is a bully. I would tell my kid to play inside or find someone else to play with. But when those kids come around, it's time to come inside. Be the more mature person in this situation-don't waste your time worrying about if she's trying to out do you. You should be above that and teach your son the same.

Answer 2

Are you sure it's the children who have the problem? Kids are kids, but I have seen parents carry on a fued for years over something stupid, while the 'children' forget a minute later a move on. If you want to show you child how to act as an adult. then set an example. How did you respond to the neighbors new bike? I'll bet it wasn't "Hey, great looking bike. Why don't you two go outside and play." While you sat around complaining about his mother being a show-off, was your kid taking mental notes? Nice way to teach a child how to react socially. Now wonder we have a generation that is never satisfied and is going into debt before they can drive a car. Keeping up with the Jones' has been around since the first settler's cut down the first tree. The next farm had to have a bigger tree and so on and so on.........

Answer 3

I think the answer lies in you. Your screen name says a lot. If you don't want to be in a competitive friendship, don't be a competitor. When she says something that irritates you, don't respond with a similar comment. When she does something like the above situation, consider the source and don't take it as an attack. If her kids run over to show off their new stuff, be glad they have new stuff and will leave your son's alone. If you dont' want your kid around her son, give your kid other opportunities to make friends (after school, weekend stuff like swimming, sports, etc.) If you don't want her or the kids in your apartment, be busy. In fact the busier you and your son are, the less you will worry about other people and grow to be the best YOU you can be. And that doesn't mean being "better" than anyone else, it just means doing what you like with people you like and creating boundaries around what you don't like. I have outgrown friends like the one you mentioned and am richer for it. Good luck, it sounds like you have a great kid who deserves better friends. I think you do too, and should start by being a better friend to yourself.

Answer 4

Some people just feel the need to be better than other people, I wouldnt worry about it. It seems as though you are teaching your child to be a nice little guy, and I dont know that I'd want that kind of outside influences like that. I would start to limit the time you see her and and kids. Shes probably very jealous of you, and your parenting. I wish you luck.

Answer 5

Been there done that. I had the same problem with my daughter (age 6). The neighbor girl was the same way. She was always pushing my daughter around. My daughter would fight back but would always get blamed for starting it. I just stopped visiting with her. I eventually moved away from them and havent had the problem since. It seems to be the parents and not the children who really act that way. The kids just follow. Ignore it or don't socialize with them. Good luck.

Answer 6

ok you need to talk about this to her cause if she is doing this on purpose she is being a ***** so u need to talk to her and if it dosent help just try to stay away from her and remember u have the best gift of all and that is your son.


God bless

Answer 7

can't be a friend if she pisses ya off

Answer 8

so ditch him