i'm not asking you about a person's sexual orientation but there is something I find truly fascinating/unusual.
If you take for example, a heterosexual person who feels an incredible amount of emotional attachment to the person of the same sex or feels s/he is truly beautiful on the inside and outside. the same goes for a homosexual person who feels this for the person of the opposite sex. like, you feel so drawn to her/him but not romantically.
why does that happen? is it the same wavelength or just seeing what an incredible person someone is?
thanx
2006-11-21 09:06:38 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
not bisexual, no feelings of romance
2006-11-21 09:18:58 · update #1
I think humans are naturally wired to look for allies. This would have been of great importance in the ages past when we relied on help to survive.
We like certain people because they are like us. We trust them more because we perceive in them common interests.
Like-minded people went on to form entire societies.
What you are describing is not limited to sexuality. A common bond forms between any two individuals of any age or orientation depending on the social situation they find themselves in.
Two kids who went to the same school or from the same neighbourhood who are not friends but later find themselves attending the same high school could become friends.
I once became friends with a woman for no reason except that she reminded me of someone I knew, even though I was not friends with that person! However, we were both attending a large convention where neither of us knew anyone else.
Where I work there are people of all ages and ethnic backgrounds. Seemingly odd pairings develop without the encumbrance of sexual attraction.
There is a difference between comfort, admiration, friendship and sexual attraction.
2006-11-21 09:28:00 · answer #1 · answered by aka DarthDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strong emotional attachment means just that. I believe that this is a thing that we can not control. I am female and I prefer men as sexual partners. My friend Malydia is a beatuiful and wonderful person I admire her greatly and I would be lost without her I have contact with her at least 4 times a day. I firmly believe that we were meant to be together platonically. I think I am blessed.
Don't examine - just be.
2006-11-21 17:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by writer1055 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this person in reality is bisexual; but rather, I'd think the person is drawn to the other because (s)he holds the exact qualities the the first person finds most attractive, and the fascination and feeling of connectedness makes the gender of lesser importance.
2006-11-21 17:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal to have an emotional attachment to someone of the same sex, in a totally un-romantic way. sometimes people confuse this for real romantic feelings. but for the most part, if you are that infatuated with a person of the same sex, it is probably because they embody all of the traits and characteristics that you wish you had.
2006-11-21 17:20:28 · answer #4 · answered by theburlaces 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are all interested in the beautiful in this world. My eyes are always attracted by beautiful persons, or handsome men. You cannot be indifferent when you see the beautiful. It is the same when we watch an art work. I have a supervisor with blonde silky hair. My eyes are always driven to the smoothness of her hair, because it's simply beatiful. Our eyes were created to see the beautiful and watch it.
2006-11-21 17:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Suzan K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are social animals, and friendship is no exclusively human phenomenon, read Konrad Lorenz, an ethologist who describes it among grey geese.
It seems to be an adaptation mechanism which originally helped "friends" to get a higher status within the group - and the advantages thereof - than a single individual would be able to attain.
2006-11-21 17:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋