I at this time believe I am Trans, but I feel that I'm also not sure either. I am seeing a therapist but I'm not getting any help with this one question, so I thought I'd reach out here and see what I get.
OK, so in the book: True Selves... It says that some trans people may really just be gay and not trans... How can one NOT know this...
Before I go any further in my treatment for GID, I need to be sure I'm not just gay and am confusing it with trans... What things should I know to be sure of this... Any ideas?
I'm FTM (PRE everything) I have a girlfriend of 2 years.
2006-11-21 08:58:57 · 12 answers · asked by Siren 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Here's a test that isn't guaranteed or fool-proof by any means, but can help:
Imagine your life in the future, both near and distant- and take out all romance, relationships, and sex. Drop the girlfriend, forget it- pretend that you're celibate and abstaining for the rest of your life (don't worry, though, that's not going to be required of you!). You're above such disdainful thoughts of sex in this hypothetical situation. Now- in such a state, what gender/sex are you, or would you want to be, if sexuality had no bearing on it?
It's not an answer, but a starting point. If you still would want to be a man, even without having a girlfriend and hence becoming a straight male, then I'd definitely say you were trans. If otherwise, you're going to have to do some introspection to figure things out.
Good luck.
2006-11-21 19:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think there's a set answer for your question. It's not like I can gauge you on a scale of 1-10 and if you're a certain number, then you're gay or transgendered. It really depends on YOUR feelings and whether or not you believe that you belong in a male's body instead of a female's. Which do you think is your true self and would make YOU most comfortable? It's all very subjective, but you should have a feeling. If you truly want this, then you should know... what's best for you? Then again, I'm not transgendered nor am I a therapist. I've never been put in your shoes before, so I can't exactly say that much. Sorry...
2006-11-21 09:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If someone hasnt already answered your question and oblivious to my answer than i can tel you som pointers... have had an intercourse with your girlfriend and disliked it? have felt the need to cross dress (im trying not to be rude but some do)?do frequently look at guys?have found men or boys interesting or cute? possibly your gay? if you feel like a women DOES NOT mean your gay unless you consider it. some transgender prefere the male of female role during sex, uhh mabey not the best help.
You dont want to leave yourgirlfreind for a guy BUT RATHER be with a guy than your gay. transgender can be BOTH so experiment without percipitation involve surly your though i think your bi.
2006-11-21 09:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by drake b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I am so far from being any expert, but I am lesbian and have met some other folks working through these identity issues in both directions. One thing I think they had in common is that they thought in their own real gender. It was not an act of translation. For a gay guy, there is the art of translation into the feminine. For a transgendered person, it is their natural language. Both are fine. You just need to decide if you are a native speaker or a gifted translator.
2006-11-21 09:05:54 · answer #4 · answered by Isis 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
edit: oops misread you as MtF... my original answer is totally irrelevant. So... yeah, there's a possibility. You'll have to think about why you're considering transitioning to a male role.
If it's just to bypass the social issues of being a 'butch' lesbian... (which would actually be silly, you'd just be trading them in for a similar-but-different bunch of issues) then it's likely you're just gay. But if there's more; if you're genuinely uncomfortable with the actual physical body you have... then it's likely you're trans.
2006-11-21 09:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by angiekaos 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you want to live your life? Do you want to live as a gay woman? Or as a straight man? Don't read anyone else's opinions on sexuality and gender theory. Think about your own ideas of gender identity and sexuality. Where would you place yourself? How do you feel comfortable living?
2006-11-21 09:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Transgender is the state of one's "gender identity" (self-identification as male, female, both or neither) not matching one's "assigned gender" Transgender does not imply any specific form of sexual orientation (transgender people may be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual). I think if you are gay you'd know it. Gay people are strongly attracted to people of the same gender as themselves {man-man, woman-woman}. If you are female and have had a gf {biological female} for 2 yrs and have no attraction to men its safe to say you are gay. I wish you the best in your search for identity
2006-11-21 09:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a pre op FTM who's been on hormones for 3 years. I'm sure you have a lot of questions so if you wanna chat more, you can message me on yahoo IM, my screen name is gentle_butch_4_u.
(I know contradictory screen name but I've had it since before transition and hestitant to change it)
2006-11-21 09:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never had that challenge, best of luck to you. By the way, I don't think there is anything wrong with being Transgendered, people need to get over that, and stop judging others.
2006-11-21 09:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by martin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
gay
2006-11-21 09:01:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋