I should be happy?? Life's a Soap Opera to me right now: I'm married and "Lips of an Angel" by hinder sums up the situation. I have a good loving fella who's also great with kids, and I cannot get my friend out of my mind. Please give some advice!
2006-11-21 08:57:51 · 16 answers · asked by one_odd_parent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From your very first two sentences you revealed something...your not happy. Your already having thoughts about someone else. Now its time to figure out why. Ask yourself these questions...
I'm not happy because??
Is there something I can do to change it??
What are my options??
and
What will happen IF??
Try to stop thinking about the "friend" right now because you need to see clearly. Concentrate, work on and try to fix whats in front of you before looking somewhere else.
2006-11-21 09:07:17 · answer #1 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read something recently that said this was common for married women as they fantasize situations and people that aren't really true to reality. You may just be in a rut and are thinking of how wonderful life would be with this other person. Instead of living in that fantasy try putting everything into your husband and your life together especially if you have kids. Things that seem like they would be fabulous because you don't have them often become boring once you do, so keep that in mind.
2006-11-21 17:03:12 · answer #2 · answered by Tracy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to analyze why it is you are not completely fulfilled. It has nothing to do with either man. You are not satisfied with something in your life, something inside of you. Nor are you in love with your husband. So you are looking for a way to replace whatever it is you are missing...something to fill the void. Figure out what is causing the void and you will have an answer to what is at the root of your all-consuming thoughts of a man other than your husband.
Give it some thought - I wish for you the strength to look inside yourself and find what is missing so you can fix it and move on with a life more real. Good luck.
2006-11-21 17:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the grass isn't always greener on the other side. focus on your good loving fella and make time to do things with him. some fantasies are better left that way. which is probably the case in your situation.
2006-11-21 17:06:18 · answer #4 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate that song. One, because it's just a horrible song, and two, the lyrics are awful as well! You have got to get over this. Don't ruin your family just because of some stupid guy. Make your marriage stronger so things like this don't happen.
2006-11-21 17:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by cabonarakittie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your in love with your friend maybe u should have thought it over before getting married Just pray and God/Jesus will lead u into all truth
2006-11-21 17:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by anenabanana_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happens when two get comfortable ina relationship you want the attention you once got and now dont get from yur husbund you wanna be treated and loved and swept of your feet perhaps you need to reevaluate your relationship with your husbund and maby move on to find true happiness
2006-11-22 03:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the typical thing of wanting your cake and eating it too. watch out or down the road you will be looking back wishing you had someone that loved you that much again. trust me from experience;)
2006-11-21 17:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always follow your heart because if you are not truly happy than it just gets worst eventually. Then you start to question what if.
2006-11-21 17:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by vato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling.
2006-11-21 17:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋