i want to be able to randomly make new friends, get everyone to love my jokes and me, and make myself a friendly congenial person instead of standing silently beside my bff and laughing at HER jokes.
im going to a party tomorrow. this guy i like will be there! how do fun, sarcastic, and likable people do what they do? how can i do that?
thanks. and ps im 17. and DONT SAY, JUST BE YOURSELF. because thats not what im looking for and you wont be helping.
2006-11-21 08:47:16 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I was younger I was exactly the same way. I had a few friends who were extremely social and outgoing, and I just sort of leeched off whatever energy they were bringing to the conversation and didn't contribute any of my own. When they weren't around and I was alone I would kind of keep to myself and not say much.
I always wanted to be like them, and tried it for a while but got mixed results. It took me a while but I had to realize who I was. I had strengths and weaknesses, certain interests and disinterests that made me different from my friends, and this was perfectly ok. I had my own ideas and things to contribute.
It isn't the answer you're looking for but it is the answer, don't be afraid to be yourself. I bet there are tons of things you want to say but don't, or things you think of after the fact that you should have said. Just say them. You can't make everyone love you, you can just give what you've got and hope for the best. It's immature to assume there's some magic formula that's going to make you the life of the party. Some people have that personality, some don't. It isn't good or bad, it is what it is. What is bad is trying to be something you aren't so you can please other people. If this person is inside you and you're holding it back, just let it out.
As you grow up a bit you're going to understand this a lot better than I've explained it, whether or not you believe me right now. The key is to not be afraid to share your thoughts, what you find funny, etc. Just let it out.
2006-11-21 09:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by sharky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now not all and sundry would nicely be humorous regrettably. Play up your appealing and you will now not ought to be. My gf has a feeling of humour in that she laughs whilst issues are humorous yet not often is she the resource of the comedy. She merely would not see the international via that lens. She is a appealing individual all the comparable so do now not worry approximately attempting to be something you're actually not - emphasize what you do have. in case you nevertheless experience it mandatory to compete collectively with your chum throughout the time of this section memorize some short jokes beforehand of the occasion.
2016-12-17 14:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically from personal experience all that I can say is that a person whose very popluar always have some issues within their life so with that - in order to hide it they make others feel good instead of themselves. I know that you don't want to hear " JUST BE YOURSELF" but you have no choice you can't be someone that you're not. Just try being more relaxed with yourself instead of being so shy. Don't be afraid to express yourself and your opinoins because regardless of what others say you'll always be you and only you. Have fun you only have one life so make it worth it!.
2006-11-21 08:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by babygurl_vicki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and dance with him... Being sincire is 100% better then anything =0
2006-11-21 08:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by JASNJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋