What would you do in this situation?

Question

OK first thing is first I was living with my father for about 3 months after completeing the Job Corps program. My father has basicually mental and physically abused me my entire life. One day I was fixing some chicken and french fries and the grease make a little popping noise and it woke my father up he than got mad and threw a coffee cup at me striking me in the head which caused a cut that had to be closed up by staples. I went down to the police station right after it happened and told them and of course they put him in jail. Anyways I was going to College at the time which I am still going and I now am homeless living in my car. I went to my grandmas which is my dads mother which she lives in Owensboro, Ky and asked her and see if I could stay with her for awhile until I got back on my feet and she basicually said no. She said that she was so set in her ways that she just could'nt and my Uncle and Aunt was sitting there to and they didnt help either I believe they are mad at me

because I called the law on my dad which is my grandmas son, uncles borther and aunts brother, I have been living in my car off and on for about 3 months. Churches have been helping me out alittle which I am greatful for but they put me in a hotel for one night and something to eat for a night and of course I am greatful. Well than I started to go on a drinking benge and got a P.I. in Owensboro, Ky and thats a fine I have to pay and then about a week later I went to Evansville In, and was pissing out in the parking lot thought no one was watching and the cops roll up and take me to jail for public nudity and a P.I. stayed in jail for about 5 hours and they let me out. I know you are woundering how I got the money to drink and I got it from raking leaves. Then I went to the police station a couple days later to get a voucher to get a place to stay and to eat and gave them my ID they ran my name and it said I had a suspended licence in Indiana but I was in kentucky and my kentuckys is ok

My mom lives with my father and the college that Iam attending does not have housing because it is a Community College

Answer 1

you just learned a lesson. you should have ducked

Answer 2

ok.. u gotta figure this out , and soon. remember the positives: u have a car!

ok, now. do u have ANY Friends??? at all?? that can help u get on ur feet for a bit, maybe u can even get a part time job and pay a couple hundred bucks a month???

if not, and u can't depend on family, i would suggest u can look into a shelter, OR look on www.craigslist.com for rooms to rent in houses (those are usually cheaper than ur own apartment, etc). u HAVE to get a job! possibly one on campus, so ur not traveling too far. or maybe u can take some time off school and first find a place to stay..that is most important, school will always be there. try to apply for loans and grants, and do all u can to get ur feet on the ground.

good luck to you~~

Answer 3

I am sorry you had to go through this most of your life!! If I was in your shoes I would try looking for a job asap and see if you can stay in a homeless shelter for a while or if you have any good friends stay with them and offer to help them out with food and stuff once you get a job and can get on your feet. How did you post this question, if your living in your car, with no money??? Anyway good luck..keep trying to find places where you can stay and keep searching for jobs in the paper.. I am sure you will find something soon enough!!

Answer 4

With all due respect (and I don't have much) your relatives should all go piss up a rope. Shame on them for not giving the lad a leg up.

Turn to your college for help. Go to the main office and tell them you need a counselor to help with an urgent situation. Even an academic counselor will know how to direct you to resources. Ask the counselor how you're going to keep your grades up during this temporary crisis (it will pass, maybe make room for the next one..), and hopefully together you will come up with options to choose from; there should be a job board, post your request for work/housing there (many are supportive of students and want to help); think of current and past fellow classmates-are there any who might be living at home, who might look into the family renting you a room (even temporarily)? If you have to, list "work in exchange for board", and see if there's a fair deal to be had.
Gosh, I'm sorry you had to trust your dad again.
You're not wrong for trying, his loss isn't your responsibility, tho' the pain resulting from his behavior is yours to cope with. Do everything you can think of to take care of yourself- your health (eat, drink lotsa water,sleep, nap, walk) and your mind (do something to strengthen your sense of spirituality every day, even if it's just communing with nature). One of these days you'll see that the experiences you're having now will definitely render you able for some work that lies ahead. Stay strong.

Answer 5

Talk to social services on campus, they may be able to help you. Is your mother or mothers family an option? Let them be mad at you, it happens that a family refuses to see the abuse that one member may do so that a form of harmony can exist. Its best not to get too close to that kind of familial illness.
If you are a member of a church, speak to the pastor as he may know of some elderly person who would offer room and board in exchange for help around the house.


Read your addition... stay away from the booze. Most places will understand the situation if you explain it. Homeless ppl use the street for restrooms and its awful, but understandable. Plead the fact that you have reformed from the one incident of drunkeness and then,...stay away from the booze

Answer 6

I am in college as well so maybe I can give you some tips. First off, you might want to talk to your school about some housing. Or do you have any friends who might let you stay??? Or, is there a shelter around?? Sometimes churches will take you in. I'm sorry your family has deserted you in this situation. If at all possible, please don't drop out of college. Or, there are places in your student center where they have bulletin board posts for people looking for a roommate. Or post one yourself. Good luck and hope things get better for you!

Answer 7

Your dad has problems and you are not the cause, his mother and siblings should be more supportive and try to help him and you, you are family since they choose not to, try your school they might have programs that would find you somewhere to live a part-time job helps a lot, what about your mom you did not mention her. What ever you do stay in school an education is a way to be independent and don,t take abuse from anyone this is the USA there is help out there just find it.

Answer 8

There is no reason for them to be mad at you first of all. And no offense, but if they are not wanting to help then they have something wrong with them also. They are family and they should want to help. But if you go through your all of your relatives and there is no way any of them will let you stay with them, perhaps you should try a shelter. At least until you have a secure job, if you do not have one already. Then, once you have a steady income, maybe you could apply for a loan. Then you could apply for an apartment. Do you not have any friends you could stay with? That is another option.

Answer 9

I'm sorry that this is happening to you. I would maybe go to talk to a counselor if possible and you might want to contact a social worker or your government abuse offices just to find out what your options are. When you went to your grandmas, there is a chance that she was abused as well or that your dad was abused and she kind of "turns her head the other way"...Are u able to contact your mother or someone from your mothers side? Best of luck to you and you did do the right thing - don't doubt yourself.

Answer 10

I would go see a friend. Why do you care if they're mad at you? Let them be! You were the victim and instead of sitting by and letting him do that, you did something about it. You did the right thing and they're just being a bunch of brats. Find a new place to live.

Answer 11

You sound like you're living in the US so I'm not sure what your support networks are there but surely there is some sort of government assistance for someone who is homeless? Particularly if you are still in college. Hang in there :)