RE: how many weeks must you carry a baby before abortion -?

Question

I find it sickening that a young girl has came into this community seeking advice on a highly emotional issue and all that she has received in return is abuse from the pro-lifers. Is the purpose of the community not to provide information?

How can grown women treat a young women in this way? It's disgusting!
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion of course - but ripping someone in need to shreds is not a healthy way to express said opinions.

Does anyone agree with me or am i on my own with this?

Answer 1

I agree. I answered her and did say that I'm glad I only thought about it and didn't go through with it. After I had submitted it, I felt a bit guilty because I wasn't trying to sound pro-life. I'm all for abortions if that's what is right for that person as it would have been for me if I was a teenager. I know I wouldn't have kept it if I had got caught at a young age. I hope the girl didn't think I was saying don't do it. I'm glad you've posted this question. I should send an apology incase I upset her.

Answer 2

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY NOT ALONE. IT SICKENS ME AS WELL. THEY NEED TO TAKE THEIR PLATFORM ELSEWHERE.
You see the worst part is that they are looking at it from the entirely wrong angle. Who's to know the situation of the young lady. You see women can be so awful to each other and very quick to judge.
The point, i would make is for all those saying abortion is the best choice... when was the lat time you visited adopted a child, or visited an orphanage? When was the last time you looked out for the needs of one of these unwanted children put up for adoption. What are those facilities like, how do you know all their needs are being met there... !
If you think the silent scream video is awful.. then you need to see a living.. breathing child who is dying of hunger or malnutrition. See how children suffer when brought into this world by parents who cannot provide for them and THEN you can say which is the better way.
If you somehow can't find a malnutrition ed child... (although there are too many in this world to miss them) then look out for the latest child abuse victim. Studies show that most abused children were once unwanted, unplanned pregnancies and in some situations forced to be brought into this world by parents or "moral characters".
I'm definitely not saying abortion is a cure-all but be aware of the real situtaion before pasing moral judgement and know all the facts before condemning ANYONE's decision.

Answer 3

OH FOR GODS SAKE WHO EVER SAID THAT JUST BECAUSE SHE WAS YOUNG AND PREGNANT THAT SHE HAD BEEN AN IRRESPONSIBLE SL*G GROW UP ACCIDENTS HAPPEN TO THE ELDEST AND BEST OF US. WE ALL HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEAL WITH THEM ANYWAY WE LIKE.

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU - I am a 22 year old female from the uk i have a lovely little boy who is 3 who is the most important thing in my life. When i had my son i was in a very happy long term relationship. I said for many years that i would NEVER consider having an abortion.(For my own personal feelings, I am not religious and believe everyone has the right to choose) That was until last year when after a short (4 and half months) relationship i discovered i was 8 weeks pregnant. I had not been stupid or fu**ed about. I was extremely careful and used a condom as well as being on the contraceptive pill. I was just unlucky the only method that is 100% is abstinance and so as far as i am concerned i believe i did everything that any female in a sexual relationship can do to prevent unwanted pregnancy. By the time i discovered that i was pregnant the relationship had ended. When i contacted the babies father his answer was simple "Get Rid!" I spent 3 weeks thinking of nothing but what to do. I was alone, already a single mum and i had just started University trying to make something of myself. I was not in a position financially or emotionally to raise a child. In the end i never got the chance to discover whether i would have been able to go through with an abortion as i miscarried due to stress at 11 weeks. (And yes despite my thoughts i was extremely upset at the loss, Im not heartless it was still my son or daughter)

Luckily through all of this i had very supportive and caring friends by my side who never judged me.

I too am absolutely discusted that these poor young lasses have come on here to try and get basic inforation and facts on what i agree is a very sensitive subject only to be abused by a load of mindless hypocrites. You can not preach human rights and yet take away a womans right to decide what happens to her own body.

I REALLY HOPE THAT NONE OF YOU WHO HAVE SAT AND ABUSED THAT CONFUSED YOUNG GIRL EVER END UP IN THE POSITION WHERE YOU QUESTION WHAT YOU BELIEVE YOU HAVE DECEIDED IN THIS MATTER LIKE I DID BECAUSE IT IS THE HARDEST THING THAT WILL EVER HAPPEN TO YOU.

F**K OFF and leave everyone to their own choices. Stop dictating your beliefs onto others

Answer 4

well if you come here asking for information about abortions then you need to hear the good side of it and the bad. you cant just go with whatever ppl tell you, and no matter what info you are looking for there are good and bad sides to it. so if you are not ready to hear the downside to the decisions you make then you are not ready for life and you shouldn't be carrying a child. cause for one you wont be able to teach it anything. life is harsh and so is the topic these women are asking for. im sorry to tell you. once you are pregnant there are no "young women" there are just women you are not a kid anymore. and if you wanted to stay a young woman then you shouldnt be out doing grown up things when you're 12, 13, 14, 15 and then get scared and ask a bunch of strangers on YAHOO! for answers.

You are on your own.

love jen.

ps. im curious to know...do you find it disgusting that ppl are saying...YOU DID SOMETHING BAD NOW GET AN ABORTION!! i've seen it. i've heard it. its been told to me. its not cool. that babies heart is beating in a couple weeks...right when you decide to kill it. how will you live with yourself afterwards? how do you help someone cope with that feeling especially when you havent experienced it yourself?? you cant. so they need to be told the downside. hate me if you want, but i find you guys the disgusting ones.

Answer 5

I did not read the Question & Answers you are referring to, but I do agree that "ripping her to shreds" is unnessecary. I am against abortion. But, if someone came to me looking for help, whether it was face-to-face or via internet, I would want to help them. Unfortanatly, the law gives a woman (or girl) the right to abort a baby. But, ultimitly it is her choice, not mine.

There is no need to put her down for questioning anything about abortion, or the right to have an abortion. She may feel guilty enough, and that is what is leading her to abortion. Possibly she is feeling pressure from others around her, parents, boyfriend, spouse, friends. Why should I add more pressure?

You are not on your own here. If a person wants advice, they should get advice, not ripped apart.

Answer 6

On your own I'm afraid. If people are responsible enough to have sex they should be responsible enough to pay the consequences. I'm not some fanatical pro-lifer, just a realist who is sick of people namby-pambying around issues like abortion and "feeling sorry" for irresponsible girls. This country is soft as a a whole so it's pointless expressing my opinion as I will just be seen as an evil pro-lifer. NB. I am not. I obviously sympathise with women who have become pregnant without consent (ie. rape etc) and in that circumstance I would agree with abortion, also if the unborn child would be severely disabled in that it leads to a vegetative existence. We have the HIGHEST teenager pregnancy rates in the whole of europe! This is what we need to deal with and fast. It's a disgrace.

Answer 7

I do not find it sickening, though a little surprising how thick the pro-life group seems to be on this site.

They aren't doing any good though, so I do just wish they'd pipe down and save themselves the time of typing out their typical responses, either being:
1. I LYKE HOPE U DIE N GO 2 HELL
2. Don't kill your baby! Give it up for adoption!
3. You opened your legs, now pay the price!
4. That's what you get for not using birth control!

Etc, etc.

Most of the country (not to mention most of the countries in the world) has show overwhelming support of abortion remaining a completely legal act, even those who identify with various Christian religions, so I am just going to assume that the pro-choicers are keeping quiet around here, or that pro-lifers just have more time on their hands and choose to use said time by trying to impose their personal morals upon others via the internet.

Anyways, the whole thing has a pretty funny hypocrisy to it, plenty of pro-lifers and even their teenage daughters have abortions every day (and still remain pro-lifers afterwards), but they make excuses for themselves to rationalize the fact to make themselves feel better about it saying their case is different, and then go straight back to picketing the very clinic they received their abortion at the very next day.

It's easier when you can just laugh at it...trust me. :)

Answer 8

I definitely agree with you. Everyone is entitled to their own thought, but maybe this girl just needs some more onformation to make her decision and who are we to judge her. I agree...how can other women treat other women this way. We don't know her circumstances nor her age ....what if she was rapped ? How is this fair to someone that may only be 15 or 16 years old/......or to anyone that matter. Don't get me wrong I would rateher people choose to give life, but I understand sticky situations as well. Good point !

Answer 9

I agree,

Last time I checked we do live in a free country! I don't think any women wants to have an abortion but there are circumstances that they may need to do so, doesn't meen they don't love there unborn child and will think about it for the rest of there life. I don't think we should use abortion for birth control anyway there should be more places like Planned Parenthood (that have better hours) so women can recieve birth control in all forms for resonale prices.

Answer 10

You can have an abortion any time up to 12 weeks. Some places will do them up to 18 weeks, but you have to research to find them. I think abortion is a personal choice that shouldn't be taken lightly. Make sure you have no other options before you do it because even if it is for the right reason you might still have regrets in the future. I say that from personal experience. Looking back, I did the right thing; but I longed for the child I gave up for years. Luckily I had no complications, and went on to have a beautiful daughter years later with the man that I love. I even have a son on the way. Just think it all the way through before you do it, and go somewhere reputable and safe to get it done. Good luck.