2006-11-21 08:08:01 · 19 answers · asked by shedevilmamma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There's nothing you can do to make someone a better father. They have to want it. All the nagging in the world won't change him. Unfortunately, you are left to shoulder his part of the burden, but then loving a child isn't really all that hard. The little one will see who really is the loving and caring parent.
2006-11-21 08:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by mizging2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy doesn't want to be around his child then its for the best. Your child will be better of without him. I was on my own for 2 years with my daughter before I met my husband. As soon as we started dating, my husband became the father figure my daughter never had. When we got married, my daugher and I both walked down the aisle hand in hand. Now my ex doesn't pay child support and has signed parental rights over to us. We are happy, my daughter is happy, and he is off in the sunset doing whatever. My conscience is clear. I was there for my daughter and always will be. So is my husband. My daughter doesn't seem to be suffering from it. She may ask why later on, but she will also know that she has a dad who loves her.
I'm not saying run out and get married. I'm just saying to do right by your daughter and the rest will take care of itself. Focus on her, not on him. If he doesn't see the beautiful child you both have made then his loss. But when he comes back when she's older and wonders why she treats him like a stranger, it will be his fault.
2006-11-21 16:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its his loss. One day he'll wake up and realize what a lout he's been. Just love your daughter and chose wisely next time because your choice in men is what she will be looking at for the years to come.
I dont know why men cant see that when they reject their daughters they grow up searching for love from that male figure they never had. Sadly sometimes in all the wrong places.
Instill in your daughter how beautiful and important she is and hopefully that will be enough.
As for the bum. Take him to court. He's gonna pay the price. Its up to him if he wants to enjoy the joys and benefits of having a child.
2006-11-21 17:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you feel he needs to be a bigger part of his childs life. The choice is his,you can't force what he doesn't want to do unfortunately for you and your child you may just have to move on. But DO get a child support order so he can help support your child. Best of luck Sweetie!
2006-11-21 16:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go about your business raising your kid. It sounds like he doesn't deserve to see her anyways. Make sure you're gettting the financial support that he owes you though. It will hurt emotionally during this time, but he will realize one day how horrible of a person he is being, and he will realize how much he has missed in his daughters life. Just let him make his mistakes and give him at least one opportunity to make it up to you and her after he realizes what he has done.
2006-11-21 16:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by Christy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a court ordered support agreement, if not get one.
If he won't come, there isn't anything you can do about it.
Hes left his seed and thats all he is going to do, hes on to the next one. You can make him pay, but you can't make him be a man.
2006-11-21 16:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your place to dictate how much he comes over to your place to see her. As a matter of fact you need to enable him to see his daughter without also having to see you. Maybe, that's the problem.
Keep yourself out of their relationship and you may find that he is an eager father.
2006-11-21 16:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your cool. Is he paying child support? When he does pop round remind him about how much he has missed and give him the ultimatum. If he dosent face to his responsibilities then your better off without him and the child
2006-11-21 16:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Suzie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answer. U cant go on worrying about wether or not the dad will c the child. Take him to court. He at least owes that to his child to provide. I know its hard honey im going through it myself and when my x does get his child it drives me nuts.. good luck to u
2006-11-21 16:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll see him in court for child support, I'll bet a million bucks he'll start coming around all the time, day and night!
2006-11-21 16:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by 2good4u 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋