I thought I had met the life of my life 2 years ago, he was everything I wanted in a man, a loving father to his children from a previous relationship, a hard working, responsible, kind-hearted, man....(these are few and far between). He had a great job with benefits...then we moved in together. At first things were great I went to school to pursue my life long dream of working in the medical field and he paid the bills, I got preganant and he got layed off he promised me he would find something, well it has been 2 years since tehn, 2 children later, a bank levy, I had to put school on hold and work full time and we are just makin g it by, meanwhile he sits home all day and has not filled out one application. I no what I want to do, leave, but what about the babies, they are so young and they love him so much they spend every moment with him.......
2006-11-21 08:02:08 · 8 answers · asked by TLAA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You say you had a child then he got layed off, then you say you have two kids.Why did you have another child if you knew that your circumstances wont cater for it.Your partner is obviously depressed.He is thinking that if you are working full time he needn't bother.Maybe he needs some help?either that or a kick up the a*se.Only you can make a decision that will effect yours and you children's future.Maybe you should try the kick first though.Good luck which ever way you go.
2006-11-21 08:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by plumbob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a very difficult situation...Is there still love? if so have u talked to him about this situation? if you have and he doesn't do nothing to change things ... then leave if u must. If he is the good man you say he is he will understand and will try and make it the least painful as possible. Don't tell the kids just yet...tell him his working and have him come see them on the weekends! also have in mind that by leaving u are still gonna have to work fulltime plus take care of the kids cuz he won't be there to help you with 'em. Good Luck to you!!
2006-11-21 08:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by babygirlxx68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should talk to him first and set ground rules, if he still doesnt get a job just leave him. He has to support his wife and children because he is the "man" of the house. This man obviously needs to be pushed. A woman can only handle so many things and your going to get to that point where u cant take it anymore so, If things dont work out leave ,find yourself a good hard working man that can support you.
Good luck to u and ur children.
2006-11-21 08:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think it through seriously before you decide one way or another. make a list of things you adore about him, and a list of things that you dont like about him and then what you believe to be the contributing factor to his downside, what has happen to him talk to him, and let him know that you are not happy in this situation and if he is non responsive and is ignorant to your pleas tell him you are not putting your life on hold while he wellows in self pity, because he is responsible for his own actions not you , continue in your goals and dreams strive forward and dont let anything get in the way dont allow or permit anyone to destroy your indiviualality if he sees that you are going forward in a positive step he wont want to be left behind and if he does you will heal.
2006-11-21 08:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by michele d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could let him play Mr. Mom and encourage him to get part time work. If that fails you have to make a life altering decision between your hapiness and the hurt to your children.
2006-11-21 08:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to sit and talk with him and tell him what your think'n. Are you guys even married? You need to tell him to get up and find a job. No women should be with someone who cant take care of all her needs. you need to do somethin you wanna do like go to school. Follow your heart and you know you wont go wrong.
2006-11-21 08:09:09 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl429019 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would go with what your heart says and if you leave the babies will be taken care of and that means that he either gets a job or goes to jail so go with your heart
2006-11-21 08:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by shedevilmamma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the babies are with him all the time...what's your problem ?
2006-11-21 08:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋