My daughter has two children by this man and he has two more by two other women. After two years of preparation, my money, he leaves her at the altar.
2006-11-21 06:57:43 · 35 answers · asked by LOLO W 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if i were you i will never forgive him
2006-11-21 06:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by chula 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think it's better to forgive than holding a grudge. Sadly I never put that into action so I have been holding tons of grudges for some time now. Thinking about how he hurt your daughter and wasted your money I would be angry with him also if I were you...but sometimes people just get cold feet. Then again he has children by other women so maybe it's best to just kick him to the curb.
2006-11-21 07:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by candyflesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Resenting him will take energy and your grandchildren will feel your negativity toward their father. Any way you look at it that won't be good for them and you should put them first. Even if he wasn't their father you should not set a bad example for them by harbouring ill feelings. You and your daughter now have choices in the situation, they don't. It must have been a terrible experience at the time but he did you, your daughter and the kids a favour by not following through. It's sad that they are the victims of such a bitter situation but in the long run they're better off IF the adults put things in perspective. Getting involved in a lawsuit would make things worse. The money is gone. Forget it and focus on what's important.
2006-11-21 07:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by Essmi d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously after having children together and agreeing to enter into a life long commitment of marriage, he definatly aint marriage and long time commitment material if he wil stand your daughter up at the alter, she better off and worth more than the heartache from this pathetic excuse for a man. Think about it! if he will leave in the middle of his own wedding to a woman he has made out to love what will stop him doing it again, when the going gets to much for him, you have a choice 'Live on eggshells' which will eventually destroy you, or cut your losses, put it down to experience and try to do your best to move on, you deserve better.
2006-11-21 07:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, he needs to get his stuff tied so he can stop making so many children and leaving them without a daddy. As for you forgiving him, absolutly NOT!!! he is a jacka** and he should pay you back for the money you shelled out for the wedding. Did he give a excuse for his actions? I mean it really doesn't mater what excuse he had he dserves no forgiveness. Even if he is the father of the kids
2006-11-21 07:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are religious, the question is simple. Seriously though, it takes a lot of spunk to realise that you are doing the wrong thing and to stop it. I've always believe too many people get married for the sport of it. they forget all about the "committment" factor. I guess if it was me, i'd pat him on the back, tell him he gave my daughter the best gift anyone ever could and that is the fact she won't have to go through life with a Loser like him and walk away!
2006-11-21 07:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by SGT. D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are more concerned about the money you spent than anything else.Besides,It's not for you to forgive him.Your daughter was going to marry him not you.If you were that concerned about your daughter,you would be talking about how she felt.Not the money and preparations.Look at it this way,You have two beautiful grand children in your life that you love,and it would be bad for them to hear you and your daughter bad mouth there father.
2006-11-21 12:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better that he left her at the alter now, than 3 years from now with two more babies. Think about it, things happen for a reason. I'm sure your daughter will find someone that will truly love her.
Good Luck
2006-11-21 07:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by m915 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dang... you can thank the gun control people for that one... if you woulda had a "shotgun" wedding he wouldn't have left her at the altar... at least not in 1 piece.
Seriously though, you're acting as though your daughter is totally innocent. Excuse me... she let this moron get her pregnant twice without him being commited to her. Hello? you expect a guy like that to buy the cow after getting used to free milk?
Maybe women these days should wake up and have enough self respect to not get involved with scum like that to begin with.
2006-11-21 07:45:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I could ever forgive something like this, but I would definitely try to forget. Hopefully it was a good lesson for your daughter to not hook up with losers next time.
2006-11-21 07:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to forgive him if you don't feel the forgiveness in your heart. He sounds like a real loser... what you should do is just forget him and help your daughter to do so too.
2006-11-21 06:59:40 · answer #11 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋