If ur close female friend tells you this:(after I told her how I felt)…..
1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???
Positive or negative comments? Significant?
p.s. We are attracted to each other--thats a fact(not my misinterpretation)we’re still friends and in touch…
2006-11-21 06:56:39 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She feel anything towards me?
2006-11-21 07:03:15 · update #1
1.) "I can't imagine you not being in my life." Means, "I think we're going to either be 'just friends' or 'dating' always, but will never stop contact / having some kind of relationship with each other."
2.) "I don't deserve your feelings." Means "I have low self esteem and think I'm a bad person." OR "I think you're too good for me." OR "I've done something really bad that you don't know about."
2006-11-21 07:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by steve d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) She considers you a true friend and cares about you deeply but doesnt want to ruin the friendship. She considers you as a best friend, someone who she can talk to about anything, and who she looks up to
2) She's scared that if yous date than if anything goes wrong yous wont be friends at the end. She's scared that you will see a different side of her if yous date, a side you might not like. She has a low esteem in herself and doesnt want to get hurt by anyone.
You need to talk to her again, this time let her know how much your friendship really mean to you, and you wouldnt want it to ever end. Tell her that you think that there is something more here than just friends and that you are willing to give it a try and if things dont work out that yous will have a pack that if it does end that yous will go back to being friends. Tell her that she means so much to you, and that you would love it if she would just give this a try, its worth trying!!
2006-11-21 07:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
she wants to stay friends.
don't read any more or less into it.. perhaps it can be her own mind Supressing her feelings, perhaps she really does Like you romantically. but TOO BAD..she's not gonna get with you, so whichever reason it is, u need to let it go.. just stay an acquaintance/friend with her, but don't go after her, and don't try to Pretend u wanna be her "friend" when u really want more than that..cuz wanting more is not being a friend. in the end u will have an ulterior motive of wanting to get w/ her, and that's not a TRUE FRIEND, no matter how much u care for her.
i think she's trying to let u down gently, saying she really cares for u as a friend but that's it..and she doesn't deserve ur feelings cuz she doesn't like u back that way....but she's wording it in a way to take the blame off of you. don't take it hard, and don't try to push yourself onto her.. u are Friends, and she's being kind. she wants u to stay in ur life.. be happy, and Work on your OWN life... be happy, confident, smart, loving, caring guy, and u will find a girl who is just Dying to be w/ you..that's who u should be with. good luck.
2006-11-21 07:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 she definately got strong feelins for you...dont know exactly what though could be friendship could be romance???
2 other people already given you 2 or 3 explanations which boil down to thumbs up go for it thums down dont go for it or she has personal reasons for undeservin comment..
i just gotta go back to your question where you say after you told her....doesnt seem like she told you what she felt bout u..in fact she cant hav or u wouldnt be askin.....
tell her again how you feel and keep close look on her face as you do. look for corners of mouth and eyes for slight increases of wrinkling which show the beginning of a smile .... if she smiles when you tell her its because she is happy about this so thumbs up....better still if youre good friends she should open up to you and let you know either way...
good luck
2006-11-21 10:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by simon_b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds pretty positive to me...Jason and I were best friends for 3 years and always spoke very highly of each other. We ended up together 6 months ago (today, actually). We were both very afraid to take that leap because we were such great friends but ever since we did, it's been absolutly amazing! My guess is that your friend is afraid to take the leap. You really can't change that for her but if you really want things to change between you, and it sounds like you do, you might as well go ahead and lay it out on the line!
Good Luck!
2006-11-21 07:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... you just got blew out the politest way possible by a girl....
She was basically telling you she loves and respects you and appreciates your friendship and even though there may be a sparkle of attraction between you both there is no possible way this will be anything more than that.... and would prefer it if things stayed as they are...
Dont push it... girls can be funny and be like "right i tried to let you down gently d*ckhead get the message or friendship over"
Suggest telling her you respect her decision......
2006-11-21 21:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first up, she's the only one who can answer both questions truthfully but if i were to hear those answers from male or female i would interpret it like this
1) I don't want these feelings of yours (sexual) to get in the way of our friendship to the point of losing u because u are truely important to me
2)This is a really nice way of being positive about turning someone dow.. just like, you are too good for me, i don't deserve your love etc...
she obviously really likes u if not loves u but not in the way u do..that would be my opinion..and she doesn't want to lose u as a friend, a good friend in her life.
at the end of the day i can only guess, or assume what she's thinking..talk to her and ask her what she means, she should tell it flat out to u...only she knowa. maybe we are all on the wrong track and she's just afraid of how the rest of the world will react to her being "lesbian", and she's afraid of her feeling!
ask her.... she knows best!!
and best of luck :) love is a beautiful thing!
2006-11-21 08:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u like each other than what is holding u back from not asking her out...? Why dont u sit down with her and just tell her say how she feels... Im sure she is just shy. even being friends...communication is a factor.. its important.. U arent gonna know the real reason until u ask right? good luck to u
2006-11-21 07:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meaning 1: She doesn't want to lose as a friend whatever happens
Meaning 2: She just wants to be friends and nothing more.
Sounds like she has found someone else to be with romantically
2006-11-21 07:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by rachel d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) She's worried that if you had a relationship, eventually it might end with hurt feelings and you guys wouldn't be as much a part of each others lives.
2) She might just be saying this, but it could be that she has a little bit of a self esteem complex. She might really be in disbelief that "someone like you" could have feelings for "someone like her," or maybe she thinks so much of you that she doesn't believe she could amount to what you deserve in a girlfriend.
2006-11-21 07:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Caitlin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋