My gf and I have planned to take our relationship to and intimate level, and I am so nervous because you know us wman and our bodies and damn even have a bit of performance anxiety to,,,,how does one let go of all this nervousness,
2006-11-21 06:55:50 · 7 answers · asked by leo 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
First times are only as awkward as you make them. RELAX...communicate, ask and offer.
If having a couple of drinks helps, so be it.
It's only awkward until you get into it. Seriously. Once you're both naked, most of the awkwardness leaves.
2006-11-21 07:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and realize that the first time with someone usually isn't the best. Don't be nervous because you have a relationship already so it shouldn't cause too many problems.
And if you're still too nervous, take her for a drink first that way you'll both be a little tipsy.
2006-11-21 07:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me my nervousness was not knowing what to do. I guess all you can do is go with the flow. I didn't know anything about sex with a woman my first time.
I think once you start you will forget about your nervousness. I know I overcame it because of the exploring we did. Because I was working out how to do what where I didn't take note of my nerves.
Don't think about your performance. Just think about enjoying it. I know it wasn't crash hot initially for my partner and I until we sorted out what worked best for each other.
Give it time.
2006-11-21 10:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure it's dark and that you've been drinking. Seriously, if this is a matter that will put off a would-be partner, then you "would-be" better off with someone else. Everyone gets older, and there will be wrinkles and added weight to deal with; if two people cannot tolerate that in each other, then there is some growing up to be done.
2006-11-21 10:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by steviewag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time is the most special one and what matters most is being in your living senses to cherish each and every moment..just have a glass of wine each and talk abt anything so we could relax your mind and let go of those butterflies, then initiate the first kiss and from there on, you dont have to worry abt it...have fun!!
2006-11-21 10:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by innocence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first time with anyone new is always nerve racking especially if that person is important to you and its not just about the sex, just chill out and relax your both going to be nervous, take ya time, you,ll have sex more than once it can only get better, hope thats helpful
2006-11-21 07:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by matty b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One bit of advice.....TEQUILA......sorry just kidding LOL.
2006-11-21 06:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋