I have married to someone who is elder than me. Due to this I could not tell this to my parents. Off course I can't tell this to them for some reason which I can not disclose. Now, my wife (socially unknown) is telling me to marry again, but I know she is not uttering these from her heart. I know, she is observing my loyalty. At the same time, when my parents would pressurise me and I would be compelled to marry twice, it would be a serious dilemma. Hope u pepole understand my point. Needless to say, we love each other very much, and I am thinking about this heartbreaking options for the sake of society. Please help.
2006-11-21 06:40:19 · 16 answers · asked by computersir 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
iam trying to understand your problem.....if you love your wife truly.....how can you share her part of love with somebody else.....and more all you will be spoiling the other gals life....as you cannot love her to the fullest..no woman can think of sharing her husbands love with the other person.....if at all ur parents r insisting you than you hav to tell them the truth.....orelse you may spoil both of thems life along with urs
2006-11-22 00:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are truly in a big dilemma. You don't say what the reason is you cannot disclose your first marriage. I am left to assume it is a religious conflict or cultural.
While not sure I sense you are in India. Sorry if that is not true.
Your values are different than we in the U.S. in that family wishes are very important to you. It use to be that way here but has eroded.
I would think that if you are forced to marry again that you must divorce first. I know how hard that would be on both of you.
So what are your options. I assume being up front with your parents is not an option. This may get you thrown out of the family. That is a very bad thing. But to follow their wishes will most assuredly make you very unhappy.
If you are old enough could you move away to another area so your family would not have this influence? Are you truly forced to marry again? Could you just go on with the appearance of not being married? This is most assuredly not fair to your wife but if she still has you may be okay with it.
i know not your culture so can't give you good advice. But please do not end up married twice to please your parents. All kind of problems will present itself then. What if you get both pregnant to say nothing of the moral issue.
I wish you luck and hope I have given you a few thoughts.
2006-11-21 07:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First Question is are you Indian? Second what is your religion? Third did you actually marry this lady whom you call your wife? If you are Indian and living in India and if you are not Muslim by religion you cannot marry second time during the life time of your first wife untill you get divorce from her, otherwise under sec 494 Indian Penal Code you can be punished for bigamy. But if you have not solominised your marriage according to your religion and without changing it you can go ahead and marry again. Let me explain this to you say if you are hindu and married without actually performing the ceremony neccesary for hindu marriage validity, say in vedic form of marriage Saptapadi taking of 7 steps before the sacrad fire is necessary for making the such a mariage valid. Or if you are a sikh taking of 4 Lamas around the Sacrad Guru Granth Sahab is necessary for making the marriage valid. Here i want to make this point very clear that both the parties to the marriage should be of same religion, one being Hindu & another non Hindu will also not validate your mariage. To be of same religion in a religious mariage is condition necessary in all and any religious marriage. Only Special Marriage Act,1954 allow marriage between parties of different religion. I hope I have made the legal point regarding your marriage clear. Now you can proceed . My advice is that take your wife to your parents and tell them you love her and have married her although this may be a bold step but to save your marriage and your love for this lady you have to take it.
2006-11-21 15:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if your present wife tells you to remarry, you can't do that without divorcing her first. That is the legal position. Its upto you to decide whether you want to continue with your present spouse with whom you have a loving relationship or succumb to parental pressure and remarry. You should have told your parents when you married her. It would have saved you much of the present trouble. And you will have to disclose it anyway now. It would be best for all of you, that your parents know about your marriage and don't ask you to remarry.
2006-11-21 17:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Modest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you live in the USA you cannot be married to 2 women at same time that is bigamy and you can go to jail over this. if you want to marry someone else then at least divorce your first wife. also who cares if your wife is socially unknown, unless your president or something she doesn't need to be socially known if you love her but by all means do not marry another woman while married to your wife. you will get caught and go to jail.
2006-11-21 15:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by kameo_44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-22 12:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wants you to end up in jail on charges of bigamy. It is illegal to be married to two people at the same time. If you really love her, get some backbone and stand up to your family. Your wife deserves this. Otherwise, divorce first, remarry next.
2006-11-21 07:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by Hallon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why you want the support in relation to sin? When you love each other, why you want to even think of getting married? No excuse of society could be availed in this case! Also, you have not stated the necessity in your case.
2006-11-21 20:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets face it - You are a weak person, but cunning enough to get your wife to agree on your terms and demands.
There are two types of people in this world
1 - who thinks they are clever than others.
2 - who thinks they are clever than others and also all other are stupid.
You belong to group 2.
Please let us know when your 3rd marriage is happening.
2006-11-21 17:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by GS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in islam you can marry another wife if you have good reason to do that like she can't raise children or she is very sick and un able to be cure
2006-11-21 06:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by lostship 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋