My boyfriend is like my best friend and we have a blast together. i dont think my friends understand that its not like i dont want to hang out with them, its that most of the time i fun more fun with him then with them. for example: on a friday night my friends havnt called me so i go hang out with my boyfriend and we "game" and act crazy(haha yes im a gurl and i game, it fun gurls should try it) but anyways about an hour later theycall and ask me to hang out and i said im with my boyfriend call me tomorrow after work. they get mad and say i hang out with my boyfriend to much. plus most of the time they dont call me b4 i make my plans.
should i start calling them frist so they dont get mad at me or should i just do what i want and hang out when and whoever i want to. Is that a bad thing to do??
2006-11-21 06:35:52 · 29 answers · asked by Chelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and no my friends dont have boyfriends only 1 does and her relaionship isnt heathly.
2006-11-21 07:01:35 · update #1
Why worry about what other people think. Do what feels right. Your friends would want you to be happy right?
Would you want a friend to hang with you because she wants to or because she thinks she should?
2006-11-21 06:37:59 · answer #1 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have that strong new connection with your bf, and you want to spend time with him, all the time you can. Trust me this wont last forever, prob for a few years, and than you will want your time with your friends, or just some days apart. But right now enjoy the time with him. Make a day with your friends that you will stick with, such as a day druning the week or a few hours durning the weekend, that yous will get together every week and do something with them. Talk to them and tell them that this guy means everything to you, but you still want to keep them as your friends and still want time with them as well, but now that you have a bf your time will have to be shared between yous. But make it clear you dont want to totaly ditch them all together just that your time will just be a lot less than before you had a bf. Somedays when you know you and your man wont be together call your friends up and make plans with them, they will be happy to hear it. But you shouldnt be the one calling them all the time, they can make a effort at times too. But just make sure you dont lose your friends, and that you do end up spending sometime with them, friends are always good to have, and a true friend will always be there for you, so dont trun your back on them complety.
2006-11-21 06:42:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to loose the friendship that you have with them now I think you should have some kind of set schedule where you spend on day a week or one day a month with them. Only because boyfriends as we all know it don't last forever and when he's gone your friends may not have room for you so you want to make sure they are around when you need them and you are when they need you.
2006-11-21 06:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A boyfriend or girlfriend shouldn't replace a person's platonic friends...romantic relationships come and go...what will you do when yours ends and you've alienated all of your friends?
Plus, those people are your friends for a reason...apparently you enjoyed spending time with them before you hooked up with your current guy...
Yeah, why don't you call and make plans with them sometimes? Make sure you've got friend time and boyfriend time...the best friends I've had, have never let a romantic relationship interfere with their friends and hobbies...they incorporate their romantic relationship into their life...not change their life to eliminate all but their romantic relationship...
How much do you value your friends? Let that answer help you decide...
2006-11-21 06:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from what you said, it seems like you and your boyfriend have a real connection, and that's exactly how it should be! You shouldn't have to sit around waiting for your friends to make plans, and avoid making plans with your boyfriend if he asks you to do something. However, I do think it's important not to lose your friends, so don't be afraid to call them once in a while either. If you call them, and they are always too busy, they can't be "mad" that you make plans with your boyfriend.
2006-11-21 06:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Tgrman80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just make sure that you don't have all your time around your boyfriend, But every once in a while call your friends and see if you guys can go do stuff.
2006-11-21 06:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by ~*mwah*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what boyfriends are for...BUT, you dont' want to lose your friends...one day you might need them and BLAM, they won't be there for you...but on the flip side, if they are true friends they should understand that you have a boyfriend you like to spend time with. Do make time for them, though.
2006-11-21 06:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Vanity 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need a new set of friends. all my real friends KNOW that my man comes first. sounds like they are single. i heard a comedian once say "never let a B***h with no man tell you what to do wiith your man" and it's true. who is gonna be sitting next to you when the kids are grown and gone? who will you be sharing a bed with when you are wrinkled and grey?? your man. i like hanging out with my husband. i can't wait until we retire. he's such a great companion to travel with. i don't like going anywhere without him. and my friends all know this. we still do things, but it's not a huge priority anymore.
2006-11-21 06:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with hanging out with your boyfriend at all. sounds like you have a good relationship. it also sounds like your friends are jelous. yes spend time with them when it suits you, if your b/f is the man for you and your going to spend your life together then go for it and dont worry
2006-11-21 06:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by rachie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend has that kind of promblems you have to have time for both no matter what youre friends are youre friend an you've knowen them longer youre boyfriend is you guy an you love him
but some time you should have both cause once you have youre bf u leave ur friends and then when break up comes u and up with nothing
2006-11-21 06:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by chula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋