My significant spent 10,000 dollars on his divorce, it was finally final in October after she fought it for a year. He only filed because she cheated so many times with so many people including relatives and his so called friends. She thought he would never leave for good because he had left 2x before and came back. Now she keeps dragging him back to court. If he won't talk to her on the phone she will tell their 14 year old daughter to tell him that he can talk to her on the phone or talk to her in court. We have custody of the oldest and she has the 3 youngest. She is constantly dragging him in and out of court just to cost him more money and more grief. If she can't have him she don't want anyone to have him. When will all of this madness stop? He hates her and she knows that. She has a boyfriend so why can't she just leave us alone?
2006-11-21 06:32:20 · 17 answers · asked by bamagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She's one of those women who doesn't want the man anymore, but resent it when he is happy with someone else.Your boyfriend (husband) needs to put her in her place. She has no place in your lives and HE needs to make that clear to her. Unfortunately when an ex-wife and kids are concerned there is always madness around. Been there...done that. Good luck.
2006-11-21 06:38:59 · answer #1 · answered by Female O ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A smart judge would put an end to this. Most judges can recognize when someone is being petty. Once a ruling is final it will take an act of God for most judges review a case. A good lawyer would bring this up to the judge. We dealt with my current fiance's ex going back and forth to court concerning their children. Finally the judge said he had enough and if the guy brought up another matter before the court he would hold him in contempt. He would take us to court everytime she changed a job, daycare provider, or he got caught by CSS and they started taking out his child support. Some people just hold grudges.
2006-11-21 06:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably knows what a mistake she has made and now doesn't know how to hold on to anything other then trying to drag y'all in and out of court. She sounds like she isn't past the point of using the kids against him either. She has to be stopped. She will only continue this behavior. Maybe you and him should take her to court over custody of the children. Win custody and then she has nothing to bargin with.
2006-11-21 06:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no end to the things people will do to make other miserable when they themselves are miserable. They believe that the misery of others will make them feel better, but it doesn't. However, you are the innocent bystander caught in the middles of all this. She is not going to allow you to be happy when she isn't....and it is up to your husband to stop this. The only way he can do so is to take away the power she has---that is, to act as if nothing she does phases the two of you at ALL. I know that is hard to do, especially whe children are involved, but believe me, the 14 year old daughter will soon realize that her mother is full of poison and want to distance herself from it. If the two of you seem reasonable, when that happens she will turn to her dad. This woman is more interested in the pain she can cause him than she is in taking care of her child---how disgusting. i am sorry for your trouble; I know you just want some peace and to have a life----it will come, eventually.
2006-11-21 06:47:30 · answer #4 · answered by hot_italian_empress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are miserable hate to be miserable alone. Nothing better in their minds then stirring the pot, it's what they are so used to that with out it, life just doesn't seem normal to them. I would do my best in your position to not "feed into her negativity". If she desires to take your honey back into court let her. The courts will eventually get sick of dealing with her (she is going to continue to file at her nearest courthouse and they will come to know her). The judge (should you portray yourselves accurately) is going to recognize that your family is not interested in all this drama that the ex is creating and will become less and less tolerant of her antics.
The less you feed into her aggrivations, she will grow tired of being ignored and it should lessen the effort she spends working on these new plots; unless she is a complete wacko, then..... you should opt for restraining orders. I would limit (as it seems you have done) the amount of contact you actually have to have with her and just try to focus on the kids. I have a feeling if you are able to they are going to end up with you two anyway.
Though a child may not admit it, they want and require structure in their lives and it doesn't sound like she is a positive influence.
Best wishes to you,
2006-11-21 06:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by dribble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I divorced my ex 4 years ago. He constantly drove by my house, called, asked the kids what I was doing, etc. He had a girlfriend, too! They married a couple years ago and even after that he kept it up. In fact, one time he had his wife look in my windows to see what I was doing!!
I finally got fed up with it and started documenting all calls, drive-bys, etc. I told him after a few weeks worth that if he did not immediately stop I would put a restraining order on him and his wife. He quit.
Good luck... sometimes it takes time, sometimes it takes the threat of the law.
2006-11-21 06:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsum691 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely speak with an attorney. The ex seems to be very vindictive. The divorce is final and he has no reason to speak with her unless it involves the children. An attorney will be able to legally inform you of steps you can take.
2006-11-21 06:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing it because she knows she can.
She's useing the kids as her pawns.
Why can't he get a restraining order on her? They can always use friends or family to pick up and deliver the kids on visitations.
Could all of this be because of YOU? Did you do something that cused her to rage? Did u interfere when they were married?
2006-11-21 06:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is holding on to the bitterness of her empty life. Unfortunately with kids involved he may never be rid of her. Hope he doesn't make same mistake with another woman. She sounds emotionally unstable. Support him every chance you get. He really needs love and support right now.
2006-11-21 06:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't take him back to court just because she feels like it. She has to have a reason, and him refusing to talk to her on the phone isn't one.
2006-11-21 06:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋