me and my wife dont even live together now. what can i do to get that fire back? that dont cost me a fortune. and remeber we live in a small town so there is not much for us to do! Help!!!!
2006-11-21 06:29:56 · 17 answers · asked by litchmob199725 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take things one day at a time. Don't focus on the big picture yet. WHen the time is right ask her out for a quiet dinner.. no marriage talk just a nice dinner. Send her text messages (not obsessively) saying good night or letting her know you miss her. Be gentle with the relationship.
Go to counseling and try to work on yourself first. Don't make demands or be bossy or expect things to work out overnight. Take a serious chill pill and try to figure out what you want in the marriage and what you are willing to do to repair what you two have created.
2006-11-21 06:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK to her obvisouly you have no clue what you have done wrong so maybe talking to her and figure out what was the problem that made it come this far. That is what you need to do first because if you do not fix what is wrong you will not be able to anything to win her back. YOU have to find out what the real problem is right now first. Then tell her you will change and DO IT just do not say it. You guys need to talk and maybe go to a marriage counceler together. That is the only way i could see your marriage getting fix flowers dinner things like that will not fix a marriage. You have to fix whatever is wrong in the marriage first to win her back. I
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-21 06:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you should not do is call constantly...trust me this will turn her off...Surprise her....don't call her for a while ( a week or two)...then just send her flowers out or the blue...call her and give her a quick hello...by the way..."did you receive my flowers?" and get a feel for her reaction. If you notice that she is very distant don't pressure it, give it more time and then invite her out to a dinner. You will know if she still loves you after a few attempts and if she is no longer in love... well.... I hate to say it...you know you will have to let go. It is hard to give you advice not knowing the reasons why...unfortunately certain problems are irreparable, especially when it involves infidelity or emotional or physical abuse. I hope this is not your case. Good luck on your marriage, it is good to see that you care enough to come out here and ask for help. I really hope you can mend your marriage.
2006-11-21 06:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to explore what it is about the relationship that has made it go bad. Talk to your preacher; go for counseling whether separately or together....show her you want to make an effort. Without alot of information....that is the best I can suggest. If money is a problem for you maybe that is why there is problems? There are alot of options even in a small town.
2006-11-21 06:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you have to be honest with yourself about why the fire has died!!
Try asking her out on dates. Don't take her right there in town, drive the extra 50 or so to another town.
It's only 39 cents to send letters! Send her words from your heart! Flowers can get expensive if your on a low budget, but trying that once or twice would be a start.
IF your missing her and love her, you have to use your words to express that, other wise, she won't know.
IF your on the internet, get new sexual help from sex sights.
Use your imagination........woooo her, say your sorry if you did anything wrong and mean it from your heart!!
2006-11-21 06:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on picnics that doesnt cost much and will give you quality time together. stop by her work to pick her for lunch... it is spontaneous and she will love it an you both have to eat any way.
go on little outing together weather it is just grocery shopping or washing the car... it is time spent together. do yard work together then you can clean each other up!
2006-11-21 06:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by becca_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember how you met? what did you do then? Take her places that will remind her of the first time you kissed her/she kissed you. It's not really the money that counts but the thought. A little of surprise and romance won't hurt.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 06:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mags 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i are having problems too and i feel that im loosing that affection... as a woman i feel like the best thing for you to do is to communicate with her. talk to her heart to heart. remind her how you both felt when you were just starting the relationship. tell her that your marriage is so important and that you want to make it work. ask her to help you make it work.
2006-11-21 06:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Charis Mae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if you can take her somewhere. Go to the park for a walk and nervously lean in and kiss her like if you don't even know her and it should spark her.
2006-11-21 06:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out on a simple date 2 a restaurant and maybe top the night off with what a married couple should do.i think u know what I'm talking about.!!!!! ;p
2006-11-21 06:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋