My Fiance' is in a rock band. He has a passion for music that he has had since he was a child & I am supporting him in pursuing his dream. He is not making ANY money right now & is on the road more than not. What should I be asking of him? I work full-time making 40K/year & pt making 10K/year...I am pulling my weight above & beyond. He is using his 401K money from his previous job to support himself/us while he is trying to make it. Any thoughts? He has alot of responsibility at home including a home that we rent & a child from a prior relationship.
2006-11-21 06:14:43 · 6 answers · asked by Kirsten S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He uses the 401K money to contribute to his portion of the bills (rent, credit cards, utilities, etc). He uses minimal amounts on personal spending, other than feeding himself daily. He also used some to buy my engagement ring.
2006-11-21 06:33:40 · update #1
I think that he needs to let go of his childhood dream. Not so much as always being involved in music all together, but he has a family now and needs to be at home to take care of his family. If he doesnt have any type of contract or record deal that actually pays him to do what he enjoys, then hes kinda wasting his time being gone from home. If hes at home, has a decent job that pays alright, then you wont have to be working your butt off all the time. Whats he going to do when y'all are married? Stay on the road all the time? He needs to be realistic. Hope you get things straightened out. Best of luck to ya!
2006-11-21 07:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your fiance should give up his fantasy of being in a rock band (everybody wants to be in a band). Does he have a recording contract? Does he have an agent? If he is on the road all the time why does he need his 401k money to live? You need to SERIOUSLY re-evaluate your relationship because your fiance is living in a fantasy world and needs to face his real world responsibilites. If he does not - it is time to get out this relationship. Sorry I know this is not the answer you wanted to hear.
2006-11-21 06:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-04 05:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by oberlander 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
starving artist. is he appreciative of your efforts at home? is he still making contributions with the 401K or just using for himself. Being with an artist is hard work. and not like other careers. it requires dedication from all parties. the question really lies if you believe he can make it.
2006-11-21 06:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His job has traveling future - for you hard work. But if he doesn't try to make it - he never could sleep peacefully again.
If you don't take a risk - you never can get or find out.
2006-11-21 06:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me the you are doing the rihgt think by staying with him and support his dreams. he may make it, and he may not.( i hope he does) but eater way at the end of the day he will now who was with him trhu all this crazy times. and hw will love you even more for been there for him. GOD BLESS YOU and good luck
2006-11-21 06:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋